I need advice!

Hi everyone! I really need advice so please post! I like this one guy and we are kinda dating. I really like him as a friend its just that he is kind of ....big like big fat. But he is really cute! What should i do?

 

Uh... It's a little mean to ditch someone just because they're kinda big. :l

 

if you really like him, go out. if he asks you out and you don't want to date him say, I really like you as a friend, but i really don't want to go out with you.

 

Agreed. It's like they say, "Don't judge a book by its cover." Look at him personality wise, looks aren't everything...or rather, size doesn't matter.

 

Ok now I mean this with no offense intended at all, but I find your post to be rather shallow, if you like him then so what if he is a bit big? You obviously can't like him that much if you are keeping yourself back because of it. you need to decide what exactly it is that you want.

At the moment it is unfair on you both to be kept in limbo (so to speak) whilst you make your mind up.

Do you want him as a friend? Or as something more?

Good Luck~​

 

Maybe he's genetically like that. And yes it is rather shallow to ditch someone you've been dating just because he's a little heavier.

Try not to be so shallow.

 

Hmm, that sounds very...not nice. You won't go out with him because of his size? Well if you really like him, then I don't see what the problem is because if you like them, then you should go out with them.

 

Who cares if the person you're dating is fat or skinny?
As long as you enjoy his company,it doesn't really matter.

 

Exactly. Sorry if you expected yourself to date an Abercrombie model xD

 

Yea i guess your right. But i am like a ...stick. I am very skinney.

 

well im sort of large my self and if a lot of chicks turn me down because of it and it sucks so if u like him go out with him

 

Do it personality-wise. If he's nice, go for it! If not... y'know what to do.
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No... I'm not copying my sister...

 

I don't find it shallow. She probebly just can't help she doesn't like those type of people I mean I have people I talk to that are well a bit overweight but I don't hate them I just feel that physically I dont like them >.>".




And well, it's your choice. I mean if you like him I mean like him a lot. Both personality and physically wise. Then heck, stay with him. If you don't like him for whatever reason you have. Just tell him. "Hey, I dunno. I like you. Just not as much to have a relationship. But dude. Your cool so lets just be friends!"


Or something round there.

 

If you read, they ARE friends.

 

I meant as in, JUST FRIENDS.

 

Oh...
For some reason, I never understand you.

 

I'm sorry. I will try to be more clearer. -.-"

 

Actually, she said they're "kinda dating" (whatever that is), but says she only likes him as a friend.

First off, you need to fix up your situation. "kinda dating" is asking for trouble. If both of you aren't sure wtf is going on, then there's just limitless amount of room to run into misunderstandings, misinterpretations, and people will just get hurt.

Second, I have to lol a little at the 'big' thing. I won't judge you, but you really have to decide for yourself what's important to you. If you absolutely can't date a fat guy, then that's your choice--and stick to it, EVEN if this so happens to be the nicest guy to ever walk the planet. However, if you can find it in yourself to value his personality more than his looks, then that's another choice as well--and stick to it.

Personally, you should've sorted how you felt about him first before you 'kinda started dating' because it's obvious you don't know what you want at this point. You've 'kinda' entered into a relationship without bringing anything to the table.

Protip: Know what you want, *then* make a choice. Saying 'yes' randomly without really thinking about it will just hurt people in the end.

 

My Philosophy is this. NEVER base a relationship on looks. Looks change. People who are attractive now won't be later. People who look bad now might look better later. As long as you let your emotional bond be broken by looks, you won't be able to have a stable relationship.

 

"kinda dating" means he asked me out but we havent yet.(because i am so busy.) And second i dont know if i like him as a friend or more.