I try. I really really do try to be a good friend, to build some kind of friendship with people and yet I don't understand why I'm always excluded? When I start a conversation, or show any kind of initiative to be in this group, I get turned away.They hurt me...with words, they don't listen to me, and then accuse me of being too quiet all the time. Even when I come to school in the mornings, I'll say 'hi' and they'll turn around like they didn't see me. To be quite honest I don't know what I've done wrong. I try to be a good person, a positive person, a happy and talkative person who doesnt let anything get to her, but its hard, you know? I'm thinking I might not fit here, but I didn't fit at my old school either...do I not fit anywhere? Is there actually something wrong with me? I don't want to sound annoying, but it is bugging me...
You do fit somewhere the fact people read your message here means you at least fit here! And maybe it's your 'friends' who don't fit, with you! Maybe your hanging around with the wrong people and they don't talk to you because they simply just not good friends... It's not reallt nice to say but maybe you should find others to talk to and instead of talking to groups just try with a single person and build a good friendship before trying a group friendship...
Theres nothing wrong with you!! This has happened at least once to everyone I know.. And like Docyx said,you just need to build up a strong friendship with someone you can trust,and then youll know that they have your back :3 Like me and my friends....I used to be like scared of people,but I know that theyre always with me,so I kinda now just jump in and dont give a **** about what everyone thinks :p And belive me....people suck sometimes :/ But it will always get better,that I promise :)
Hoo, I hear ya, and damn do I hear ya. Just keep being the girl that doesn't let it get to you, but it's obvious that the people who reject you don't have the patience to get to know you. This is the same advice I give everybody who comes to me with a problem: Find something you love, commit to it, and just focus on that. Then use that brilliant personality of yours to find people with similar interests that you can relate to. The fact that you were bold enough to post this thread proves that you're willing to go out and meet people and not take BS from others is proof enough to me (at least) that you're capable of doing something about it. Chin up, koukla.
Aww honey that's just school in general, people try to turn you away and look for any reason at all to put you down. It's what teenagers are best at unfortunately. Honestly, the best advice I can tell you is that it's not you, it's intolerant people who don't wish to open up to new people. If anything it's them who need an attitude check. Don't let it get to you, keep trying to make conversation, and keep smiling. Move onto a new group of people that are nice towards you. I know that's really hard to do considering everyone's always so clique-y, but I'm sure there must be people who like you, just like people like you here. Don't let school get to you because girls and boys can be so trivial.
Agreed, nothing wrong with you. Arrogant, vapid, selfish people are generally the ones who reject people, but then again the sad and disheartened feel the need to hurt others to make themselves feel better even if it leads to others feeling bad the cycle starting again. Unfortunately, there's not much you can do to sway the mind of others to accept you. But never think being an individual is a bad thing, never believe that being part of a group is going to be for the best, you need to find people who like you for who you are try your best with them, don't try aiming for people who don't care for you enough. They are not worth time and effort. And if you yet to meet these strong bonded friends I only ask that you keep trying and look for them, never doubt someone always cares.
Thing is, this would be the second group I'm in this year, and the year has barely started. Besides, everyone is so closed in on there own groups that I kinda can't join. I'll be an outsider no matter what group now. The more you wait, the harder it is to establish a good friendship. There are people in my group who I sit with in class who I think generally 'have my back'...i hope. Oh and I know people suck, I guess its just what happens. Koukla? I have done that, with another couple of people, and I did that with the group I'm in now... That's what my group is pretty much. It is comprised of people who have a dangerously low self esteem yet put down others because of it. I don't do that, I let it show, and therefore don't achieve much conversation.
