My boyfriend of 3 years doesn't like my guy best friend or my girl one.. He insults them at every chance we get and a few months ago we got kicked out of a bar to which it was supposedly because I was too drunk.. My boyfriend now says that my friends were actually trying to push me down the stairs and this is why we got kicked out.. From there things have gotten worse and I can't take it any more I love him and I love my friends.. They're all too big a part if my life to cut out and I'm not willing or prepared to choose between them... I'm at my wits end help?
Sit 'em down and talk to them about this...And if worst comes to worst and they really can't get along then you'll have to make time for them seperately...There's gonna be no need to choose...and if they care about you, they won't make you :) Everything will be okay, just talk to them about it, see what everyone thinks and feels...I mean maybe try having a day out with everyone...something that involves teamwork to get them all working together, something fun...Maybe then they'll see through helping eachother out and such that they can get along and can have a good time :)
Why doesn't he like your friends? Is it just a personality clash or something deeper? You should listen to what he has to say, of course, but if you think his reasons are unfounded do what Agent.T suggested; make time for them separately. Obviously you won't be able to avoid going out all together all the time, but you can at least reduce the times spent in this group. Likewise, you should listen to your friends' objections regarding your boyfriend. It would be nice if they all liked each other and got along well but you can't force that, much as you may want to.
I'm going to go out on a limb and just ask: does your boyfriend try to separate you from your friends intentionally? As in, does he try to always spend time alone with you and never allows you to spend time with other people? Try to hear what your friends and your boyfriend are trying to say. It's merely speculation but there is the possibility that his relationship with you could be abusive in the future.
