I don't know to feel or say right now...

Discussion in 'Help with Life' started by Akua WaterDragonKing, Sep 27, 2010.

  1. Akua WaterDragonKing Traverse Town Homebody

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    A friend I have know since 1st grade just killed himself last night.
    I been feeling mix emotions all day.....
    I don't know wheather I should cry, or yell at the world.........
    Yeah......

    EDIT: Sorry I just relized what section I'm in
    Can someone move it for me?
     
  2. finalform32 Merlin's Housekeeper

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    Oh my... dude i'm so sorry. I really wish i could help :(
     
  3. Clear_so_you_can't_See Traverse Town Homebody

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    That's awful, I'm sorry for your lost.
    I always tell people who are mourning to not be afraid to cry, it's not a sign of weakness or disrespect as some people think.
    Crying is a coping mechanism, and is one of the best.

    If you need to scream: scream.
    If you need to cry: cry.

    Giving into your emotions is the best way to understand them.

    I always have considered life a precious thing, for various reasons(which I won't go into) I have been exposed to death for a majority of my young adult life.
    And I lived learned that the best way to remember someone who has passed on is simple: live.

    If you ever need some to talk to feel free to VM or PM me, my ears are open.
    I hope this helps.
     
  4. Yozora Archer

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    Im sorry to hear that.
     
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    I'm sincerely sorry to hear that. I agree wholeheartedly with "Clear" in terms of not suppressing your emotions. A great way to release a jumble of emotions and feelings is to cry. It actually physically helps along with emotionally.

    I know how it feels to lose someone close to you so if you ever want to help in further detail, please don't hesitate to send a PM or a VM my way if you need to vent or anything.

    Try to hang in there and not lose hope, grieving will happen naturally and I won't lie and pretend it'll be easy...I wish you the best of luck with things and I hope you'll be okay.
     
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    Just yell. Yell your heart out and get it over with. Be sad now when it matters because if you hold it in you'll eventually let it out when it'll be very embarrassing to do so.
     
  7. Always Dance Chaser

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    Do what you need to do. Don't worry about how you "should" feel in this situation. There is no "should" yet. For now, just feel how you feel. Closure and all that can come later. Yell if you must, cry if you must.

    Just remember, that's all fine for right now. But there will come a point where you need to get over it and not let it consume your life. Don't worry about that yet, though.
     
  8. Fearless A good and beautiful child

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    Oh, I'm so sorry! *hugs*
    I know it's hard, but it's like Clear said; the best way to go on is to do just that. Live. Do all the things that that person will never get to do. And enjoy every minute of it.

    And it's okay to cry, you know we're all here for you.
     
  9. DarknessKingdom The Kingpin of the TV

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    Just let it all out. Find the most healthy way of expressing whether it be through crying or yelling.

    But most importantly - live. Realise, if you haven't already, how precious life is.
     
  10. Styx That's me inside your head.

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    I'm very sorry to hear that. Like Bushido said, there's nothing you "should" feel. Just let it all out if that is what you want. Only talk about it when you want to and who you want to talk to, not just because they ask. Don't worry about getting over it yet. Things may sort themselves out in due time, but that needn't be a concern to you right now. Again, my condolences about this terrible loss.
     
  11. Akua WaterDragonKing Traverse Town Homebody

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    Thanks guys it really means alot to me to know your all behind me. Your like my second family....
    I care about alot about each and everyone of you the same as a family member, and friend at the sametime.
    Each and everyone of you with your own personality that makes you unique and fun to be with.
    Thank you all again...

    Just let you all know, I did cry but I yelled at the sametime but I won't get into details at what I said....., but afterwards I went to bed.
    Still crying, I played this on repeat on my iPod

    Earth was his favorite element after all........

    Well there having a Ceramony back in Florida in a Week... (Sorry if I spelled anything wrong, don't care at fixing it atm)
    I'm going try to get my parents to buy me a ticket because I have no money right now....
    They still haven't figure out why he killed himself, I don't understand that either.
    He loved being with his friends, and family.
    Hell I just talked to him a week ago, about the new KH......
     
  12. daxma Hei Long: Unrivalled under the Heavens

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    Sorry there man, my deepest sympathies. I agree with what most people have already said. The one thing different i will have to say is this;
    He has now found peace where he once only found anguish. If he did this himself he found great pain in place we dare not imagine and something he could not bring himself to make people understand. While you feel sad now, know that if theres an afterlife he is now smiling down upon all of us mere mortals.
     
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    I so sorry to hear this.

    All you can do is accept it has happened and let your emotions out, don't bottle it up. I'm sure there will be so many people who are willing to help and let you talk to them. It's alright to be upset, we were given emotions so use them.

    On days when you're feeling particularly low, have something you really like to eat for dinner and watch something ridiculous that'll make you laugh or cheer you up. The most important thing to do is to not completely isolate yourself, when your friends are talking and your upset just join in the conversation even if you don't feel like it and just surround yourself with people. Don't blame yourself (I know people have a tendency to do this) but it wasn't your fault.

    You're in my prayers. If you want to talk I'm here =D