For the past few days, it's been like Hell to me. Especially the other week before. I've been locking myself in the bathroom away from everyone else crying my eyes out. I attempted suicide too.... >.>and I've also been crying myself to sleep these days. And I'm not enjoying any it at all. So my parents are divorced, alright I'm fine with that. that's actually quite settled. I'd rather have it actually that my father doesn't live with us. he's one of those guys who blames all his problems on others and always complains but does absolutely nothing about it. When we were with him, he'd shout at me for no reason and get mad at us for the slightest things we do. Good or bad. Now it's easier with him not around. but lately, ever since my brother and I visited him cause of his birthday, he's trying to get us back to live a good life. he blames us for the problems he's had when we talk and says it's all our fault. It really hits me, and it makes me feel guilty for the things I didn't do. This is still going on, in fact he could call again at any moment. Then there's my mother. I love her, I love her so much. I'm thankful I live with her. But lately, I'm not so sure anymore. She's got this new guy, well a friend from high school/collage. He's really nice, in fact I having him around. he not only thinks of my mom, but us too. He''s one of the kindest persons I've met. But the thing that disturbs me is that he's my mom's first priority. Not me and my brother anymore. It's always been us as her first priority, but now it's him then my brother and then me. Also, now that he's around. I have to hide so many things from my relatives... on my mother's side! I always have to think before I speak when I'm with my closest cousins. It's because their dad/my mom's brother thinks differently so yeah. I feel so restricted from the world right now. I don't want this super nice guy to jump into our family either. He has 3 daughters and a wife, they also got a divorce I think. I can't imagine someone replacing my father no matter how much I dislike him. I like it the way it is, him simply being my uncle or something like that, but never a new father. I don't want that. Also, I don't like my mom's new group of friends. Alcoholics. It's annoying, every time it's me or my brother's birthdays I invite my friends but then my mom's friends barge in with all these beer bottles and alcohol and stuff. I feel like it isn't my party anymore, not my birthday. They ruin everything these days. I just can't take the things happening anymore... It's just so hard to cope up with... .. help, nano? :[
I know exactly how you feel. i HATE MY STEP DAD...he treated me nicely when he was courting mother but then he changed when they got married.....he comes home drunk every night....and treats us horribly.... and I'm not joking...... speak your mind and get to know the new dude....it will be alright don't worry....
i'm sorry for what happened to you miss... but i do ask for one thing... do under no circumstances try to claim your life again!!! life is a precious gift from mother nature and has been offered for a reason... now...if you want your mother to recognise you more...mabye you should talk to your mom or anyone you know that could help to change it all... living a life under a lie isn't good and may turn worse in time... you could also talk with the friend of your mom...so he can understand the situation... i really hope that you will feel better...
Seems like you have some serious troubles. People in this world care about you, trust me. I once felt I was insignificent. Whenever you have a problem with your family or your mom's friends, tell her how you feel about it. And don't be afraid to speak your mind. Be who you want to be. Don't be molded into someone the world makes you.
You should listen to your father, he feels regert but he hasn't changed, so ingore him. And for your mother she is just trying to feel normal again, I guess she just isn't used to having to man around the house anymore. Maybe you should talk to her about this and I mean really talk. If she walks away just try again. As for the crying and suicde, that may seem like a good idea at the time but overall you'll only be hurting you family. Crying is good, letting it out. But suicde is the cowards' way out. You'll be dead and it will all be over with but think about the people you'll leave behind, they'll be sad and miss you so that sloves nothing.
Wow it sounds like your having a rough time. First things first: Suicide is not the answer. It's a perment solution to a temporary problem. Do NOT do it. Youl only be hurting the people that care about you. Maybe you should see a consolour about this? Talking about your problems helps you feel better! It's a fact! And so is that adults that are over 55 that surf the web have a healthy brain. Go figure. Just remember the people here at Kh vids care about you! :3
Oh the new dudes great, he's like what my unrelated uncle? :] I just don't want anyone new to come join us, ya know? I like the way it is now.. ;~; I tried talking about it with my mom, but that's how this whole shebang started x_x i'll try, I talk with my maid about it... but she's kinda judge mental... so we just talk but nothing really comes out of it ._. and dun worry~ I'll hold myself back from the window 8D i'm not gonna die yet X.X I just felt like it that time...>.> but I won't, promise. *waves hands* no crossed fingers! ;D
Just remember the people here at Kh vids care about you! :3[/QUOTE] i must say this is the best line here... we all care about you here miss... you don't want to hurt all the ones who try to cheer you up and look after you right?
*checks your age* That's too bad then. Because there's a very good chance that things will change. And what's more, there's a very good chance that you will get used to it in due time. Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet. Oh, and your mom's priority change is only temporary too. She's fallen in love again, gets to know the new guy better, etc. I'm not saying that that justifies her actions at all. She should give you more attention, definitely. But what I'm saying is that that too will change. Just give it some time.
ahhh i see what you mean i can't say i know what you're going through, but my problems, are the tinyest bits similar, except i have no courage. i think you should talk to both your mum and the new guy about this, it will be hard, but try to. it's probably the best thing you can do atm
That's some problem. A family issue is the hardest one to deal with. Just remember whenever he gets mad, it's never your fault. Just try to stay hold (hoped I helped DX)
As much as your situation sucks, you have to think of your mother. If she's happy with the way that she's living right now, it's a little selfish to say that you don't like it because you don't want things to change. I know how it is -- after my parents got divorced and they started seeing other people, I really didn't like some of them. But I had to deal, just because they were my parents and I wanted them to be happy. You'll get used to things.
I can fully relate to you and I can feel your pain. You can't stop your Mom from marrying a new guy.It's impossible. She will never listen to you.If this guy is nice and he wants to be in the family, just let him be.And don't watch your mouth as closely as you do. It's not healthy at all.Be yourself arounf your family, so at least they can hate you for being you. As for your Mom's friends..I hate to say it but, you are your friends. If your Mom is accociated with those people then she might be one of those people,not to the highest degree but..to a lower degree. You don't have to be upset anymore if you don't like the way your life is going,change it.You should try to move on and accept your Mother and Father for who they are.And if you Dad wants to blame you for something he did,tell him off.Don't be afraid.Tell him how you feel. I bet your family doesn't know about the one paragraph you wrote,and if they do..then they have some major explaining to do. I stand up to my parents when they are blaming me for something I didn't do sometimes.My family is always fighting and it's not good. But it has gotten better because I tell them the way I feel about everything. It might not make a huge dent but it's a good start. Maybe you should see the school counsiler or an adult that can help you sort out your feelings if you feel you can't talk to your family at all and they won't listen to you.It's worth a try.
