there this girl i like. she smart, cute, confident, and friendly and i want to be with her forever but i dont know what to say/do if she say no i will be sad and i wont move on to my life without her so i need to know how to win a girl's heart without messing things up
This would go better in the Help with Life forum. Anyway, don't try to act like someone else -- be yourself! Take her out to dinner and offer to pay for her -- make sure it's a place you can afford, of course. Regarding girls saying no, that's the worst that they can. If a girl says no to a boy, then that girl wasn't the one. As that old saying goes, "There are plenty of other fish in the sea.".
I agree. Take her out and show her an amazing time. Show her how great of a person you are. Dont act fake either. Be totally honest and be yourself. And if she said no, apparently you'll get over it. Maybe it wasnt meant to be, ya' know. And you'll find someone better.
It already is. lol Well do you talk to this girl a lot? Like amaury said, be yourself. It's the best thing. Also.. take it slow. Don't rush because it could scare her so start off with being friends and someone she can trust
I agree with Sabby. Just get to know her, and allow her to get to know you. Also, about this part: You can always move on. Life is something that is too short to waste mulling over a failed crush; believe me, I was in a similar boat and have finally truly realized that. Just because it doesn't go your way doesn't mean you should give up. There are plenty of other girls out there, so if this doesn't work, just hold your head up high and keep looking for the right one.
First off, welcome to KHV, good to have you. Moving on . . . She sounds like the ideal girl, I'm glad you've found someone like her. You should tell her how you feel, be calm about it though, you might make her nervous - or more so than she already could be. I don't think it's good for you to keep it to yourself because you'll regret it later if she slips through your fingers when you were so close to having her, and we don't want that for you. I know how you feel right now, because I've felt the same about both a boy and a girl. Sometimes though, life doesn't work out quite the way you want it and they leave your feelings behind. One thing about that though is when, even though you don't believe it, life does move on; if there's anything I've learned about life, it's that. I don't know much about you and the girl, so I really couldn't tell you what will happen when (because I hope you do decide to tell her) you tell her, if she says yes, that's great! You guys can go on together and be happy, but that's not the only outcome you have to plan for; if she says no, she says no, and it could be for the time being (maybe she'll be sorting out her feelings) or it could be for good, you never know. Take her out to a movie, or out for a treat, maybe ice cream or something, and when your comfortable with your surroundings, tell her how you feel. What happens then is up to her. Good luck. (:
I agree with what everyone else has said, and I'd like to say a couple other things. Contrary to the expression, her heart is not a prize to be won. If you think that, you'll never get her to love you. If you really love her, the best thing to do is to tell her that in a medium through which you know you can express yourself. For example, I plan on telling the girl I like how I feel through a letter because I'm well known among my peers as a genius when it comes to writing essays. Finally, if you tell her how you feel, do not under ANY circumstances make her decide how she feels about you right away. In fact, if she does try respond immediately, encourage her to think it over to be sure of how she feels. That will show her that you actually care about whether or not she really likes you and that you didn't rely on putting her on the spot.
Yeah i agree with what everyone else has stated above. Dude, i know how you feel, I dunno if you've every been asked some girl out before, but it sure is hard. But take heart, for a woman will feel honored (i hope so at least, she sounds like she would) to be honored. So i would suggest treating her like a woman, but be yourself. If she likes you, she wants to know your personalities that would attract her to you, not some "fake guy." However, if she doesn't respect it, maybe she isn't ready or whatnot, but i think if you handle a rejection in a well mannered way, she may see that and make her think about you more and realizing maybe you are a great guy! But don't get discouraged, I believe there's ALWAYS that special someone out there, you just have to find them. Hope this helps man.
^^ This. Be yourself, though I have to say, considering you want to love this girl, maybe being yourself will be a hard accomplishment if you want a successful time with this girl. Try your best to be yourself. It really pays off to know her first and find common ground. It makes your relationship more comfortable and from there, try your luck and take a jump start to setting your relationship there. And like Wolf said, a woman's heart isn't a prize. A prize is something of material, and if you really want to cherish this woman, then your love needs to be priceless. Be a gentleman, so always put the lady's interests and choices to both heart and mind; be as courteous and respectful to her as possible. Part of being a good gentleman is just really knowing what you can do to charm and adore the lady. I enjoy wooing my girlfriend through letters and little love notes. It's just expressing your talent in front of her can really impress a wonderful woman :) My girlfriend is very fond of the art I both paint for both her and myself. Learn to love yourself, know who you are, and benefit from yourself to entrance her into your arms. But remember, how she is puts your skills to the test, and it isn't a bad thing, cause that's the wonderful mystery that you should persevere to acknowledge in order to woo her. A woman is a mysterious figure, but it's a puzzle worth solving if you put the pieces together. You seem to do that quite well. You've already complimented how smart and adorable she is. Never lose sight of what you've perceived. Again, since you're not yet into the relationship, just try your best to get to know her. Then when the time is right, take the chance to be in a relationship you've always wanted. Never rush. Rushing will only lead you with immense headaches and anxiety (Trust me). Learn to understand the woman you love just as you need to understand yourself. Love is can actually be a very fun experience if you communicate, take patience and really take the passion to love her immensely. Love is fun, but it is not game, for you are not meant to play with a woman's heart. Love is endless, so guide your heart's desire, for love is only the mysterious start.
Girls like guys who make them feel good. Of course, girls are people, people are individual, so the how-to-do-this can be tons of things, depending on what this girl is like. If you want to figure what makes this girl tick, you need to: 1. Introduce Yourself! Obvious enough, right? In this step, you're just making a friend. You just need to be confident and relaxed. You're ice ice, baby. This girl has nothing on you, so you have nooooo reason to be nervous about a damn thing. 2. She Speaks, You Listen, And You Listen Intently. If love is a game, then her words are your strategy guide; she's the source of information you need to plan out dates properly, and the intel you need to know what gifts are a good idea and what kinds of topics she's sensitive about. Don't just stare fixated on her eyes and admire how pretty she is, because everything that goes unheard is a wasted effort, and at that point you might as well turn around and leave. This is also important in figuring out whether or not she's your type.Take note of what she says and how she says it. 3. Refer To Your Notes When you do something for her (buying a gift, taking her out, e.t.c.) keep in mind the things you know about her and see if they fit *refer to rule #2*. Some girls might not like receiving gifts in general, and if that's the case, make sure it's something she needs and was going to buy for herself anyway, like a set of headphones (not tampons or frying pans, savvy?). This will also help you determine what places to take her to, what movies you should take her out to watch, e.t.c. 4. Be Yourself. Who you are determines your plans of action, the way you execute them, and your intentions behind them. If you want to be in a healthy relationship, you have to be honest with her as well as yourself and don't try to be who you aren't, because the only person you really know how to be is who you already are. If she doesn't like you for who you are, then just move on and find another girl. You don't have to change yourself for her unless you're absolutely sure it's for the best. Any questions?
Uhhh...yes. I have a question. When can I **** her? Anyway, you don't just WIN a girl's heart, dude. It comes eventually. Just hang out with her, take it easy. Be friends etc.
^This The friend zone, contrary to what many believe, is exactly where you want to be. Not only does it help you get close to her and slowly make her realize that she loves you, it'll also help you make absolutely sure that you really do love her and that it's not just a crush.
This thread in a nutshell: [video=youtube;5O_rXZ381vo]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5O_rXZ381vo[/video] Lol, well being serious, to get a girls heart, all you need is to compare yourselves really, if there is something that she likes and you like give her some of that, worked with me. And sex is the last thing I think about Spoiler even though its the most important part, gigidy
