How do I tell my parents I'm agnostic ?

I was raised a Christian. My entire family is Christian. The only non-Christians are me and my brother. My mother strongly disapproves of this. I haven't come out about it completely but I've told her about how I question it frequently, and she got really pissed off.

I've decided that I'm currently agnostic, and I'm trying to keep an open mind about the idea of a deity.

Also,
One of my closest friends that I love so much is an athiest. I'm scared that if I tell her this she will hate me having him over. She will think he has an influence on me, which he doesn't, because I converted long before he admitted to being an athiest.

My Christian friends (most of my friends are Christian) don't mind, but wish me the best.

She has been trying to force me to go to church and read the bible and believe in God. But I'd just be pretending if I did.

I'm scared. She will give me hell for this. She has a pretty narrow mind and says that of any of us were to convert or come out as LGBT then it would be shameful, disgusting, and overall unacceptable.

How do I tell her I just can't live for something I don't believe in ? She's going to flip out..

 

You gotta understand that mothers are actually very accepting people. There is no way in hell a mother will disown their child. All she wants is the best for you, so she's only getting pissed off because she's worried about you. I myself am a VERY narrow-minded Christian, but just because I don't agree doesn't mean I don't accept. Sooner or later you are going to have to tell her, and the longer you put it off the worse it will be. Tell her that you are keeping an open mind about a diety. That's good, it gives your mother hope that you'll come around. Tell her when you think its right, and you'll know when that is, and then give her time to accept it. Patience is a virtue...my friend.

 

You' d be surprised.

Atheists R on ze devilz sidz lulz ! ^^
I don' t know how things are in your country, but in mine school as a whole is nudging students towards atheism (by teaching science and skepticism, not by talking about religion). Anyway, don' t tell her anything unless you' re completely prepared to lose everything you might lose. If you still live on her money you' d better wait to be financially self-reliant and pretend in the meantime, otherwise she could turn your life into a living hell. If you are independent but afraid that you might lose her - or at least that it might severely poison your relationship, more than it already does - then pretending might be your best option. It all depends on what' s more important for you.

Oh, and if you do decide to tell her then be prepared to defend your position intellectually, she' ll probably drown you under an endless stream of fallacies to try and bring you back. There' s a show called "The Atheist Experience", it' s all over you-tube, it could give you ideas on that area :

[video=youtube;DAuFJKQh83Y]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DAuFJKQh83Y[/video]

 

honestly, i don't think it's a good idea to tell her. if you're going to go through with it anyway, i suggest doing it in a way that doesn't belittle her beliefs and i suggest not getting into a debate with her about these kinds of beliefs. those kinds of debates can get ugly and cause unneeded strain to your relationship. also, if you're planning on doing this, you don't have to do it alone, maybe you can have a sibling or another relative to be there (preferably someone your mom trusts and well as you). you also have to be tactful like NOT saying things like "there is no God" but rather say "i don't believe there is a God". but once again, i suggest not doing this because she doesn't seem like she'll be receptive to this.

 

Thank you everyone((: I'm going to stay low about it, since I don't have to practice anything (religious) or do any sort of rituals or anything like that, and my family stopped going to church years ago, it should be fairly easy.

I should be honest if she asks though.