Ok I love her and everything and she means well but now its really starting to piss me off. Lately shes been calling me useless just because I dont like doing yard work. Being her only son doesn't mean I have to do yard work everyday. Do I really have to deal with it till Im 18 (in 6 months) and secretly move out? I used to do bad at school and she told me that she would cut the internet if I dont do better and now that Im doing way better then I could ever do in a day she goes back on her word just because I dont like doing yard work. I dont have any freedom when it comes to night. I like staying out late and come back home till its like 1 or 2 in the morning. She expects me to get home by 8PM if Im out at night. I know there is more but I cant think of the rest. EDIT: She knows I like using the computer but it is hard for me to explain to her what a great living I can do with the computer. I can video edit for the most part. She thinks I know everything on the computer just because Im using it a lot. She wants me to do things I haven't learned yet. Its not my fault my other high school is useless at teaching us that kind of thing. My new school doesn't have any type of thing useful only the internet can teach me the things I want to do or things that can be self thought.
Until you are 18 she calls the shots, its how things work. Be grateful you have a mother to at least do that much. Some people don't have that. You don't do the work she cuts off things you like to do. Its a simple concept. She probably takes care of way more than the yard. The least thing you can do is help her. 1-2. That's kind of out there. She is just looking out for you. Strict parents tend to be good parents. Not all the time but still. If I was in her position I would be doing the same thing. That's a bit too late.
at your age (and mine) we all do this, I really hate the way my mother controled my life, but in a way feel lucky there is always someone in a worse situation, I didn't have internet coz my mother thought it was pointless, and I had to ask to play computer games, it's quite demeaning an 18 year old man asking for that sort of thing.... so your lucky in way but just cope, when you are 18 you CAN move out and thats probably a good plan, see the worlds around you and live as yourself! Thats what I'm doing
Much as I hate to say this but she's the one who pays the bills so what she says goes. You don't go through life without some suffering. Just because she wants you to do yard work doesn't justify the means for you to move out she just wants some help and if she has to threaten to cut you off from things you like to get you to listen, she will. That's the parent's job. To move out over such a minor quibble is not only silly but illogical. Just do what she says. Sorry if this isn't the answer you want to hear but it's the truth.
HAHAHAHA! Oh man, I used to be just like you. My mom used to do the same stuff. Listen to me very carefully. When I was 17 my mom put all kinds of restrictions on me, mostly like yours. But she was paying the bills, so I did what she said. Now, I want you to understand something that I didn't. When you turn 18, you may think your free to do whatever you want, but that won't be true. If your still living under her roof, then you still have to follow her rules also mothers have a hard time accepting that their "baby" is growing up. But if you take it slow and take one freedom at a time, she will slowly accept that your growing up. And about the whole moving out thing, please take this advice: you don't want to leave her! She is paying for your bills. You want her to do that! You get a job and save up for college. You'll save ten times faster if your not paying the water or electric bills. Believe me, man, one day, she won't be able to boss you. But don't be dumb about it. If there's one thing I've learned about MY mom, is that I have to keep her happy so that one day I can move out! But it takes time and patience, and don't you forget that. You have to believe me, it's the best way. Oh, and as you grow up (You definently won't believe this.) you may grow up to like your mother. I used to hate her guts! We still have arguments from time to time, but I actually like to talk to her every once in a while.
So... you're complaining because she wants you to do well in school and for you to help out with chores? That's what mothers do. She's not evil for putting restrictions on privileges to make you do something that you ought to do. It's called parenthood. If you want to be able to stay out later, talk to her about it. Strike a bargain. 8pm seems a bit strict, but 2am is the opposite end of the spectrum isn't any more reasonable.
I'll have to agree with everyone here, sure when I was younger, I hated the control my mother had over me, but now that I'm nearing 24 and still living with her (planning to move out soon) I'm grateful, when a mother has a level of control over her children, is teaches them how to control themselves, which is what we need when we finally fly the nest, I can't speak to everyone, but when I was younger I once said 'When I move out I'm going to buy all the chocolate I want' but when I moved out the first time I didn't because I had learn the control I needed, my ex on the other side did not. So hold on until you truly are ready to move out, and when you can live fine by yourself, mother will be one of the people to thanks.
Well, I think this is a pretty common case. Yes, she is special to you, but maybe she's doing this because she is doing so much work, and you are not. For example, my mom do everything is my house, but she tells me she needs someone to help her at least don't disturb. In this example, we have me cleaning my room, washing my dishes and taking care of this thing today or that thing tomorrow. So yeah, I think she just want someone to help her.
