Having a bit of a problem with my Friend

Just for starters, I think some of the young members here might find this thread weird.( Or scary )

I'm actualy having a problem with my best friend. Last night while me and him were talking he told me something...he told me he was gay.
Now I've never been face to face with a gay before. I live in a small town. So you can imagine my shock. It seems he was very good at hiding it.
So anyway, I really didn't know what to say...So I blew him off.

My question is:
What do you think of gays?
Have you had a similler event?If so what was your reaction?

 

I think gay people are just gay people!! I dont hate them at all If I had a gay friend I wouldnt blow them off like that!!! hell still be my friend!!

No I havnt had a similar event but al I can say is dont give up on him even if he is gay!!

I mean hes your best friend!! for pete sake!

 

I haven't had an encounter with any gays, but I have had many encounters with Bi people. When I first learned about it, it was akward at first, but I got over it. They're still people, no matter what gender they like. I like them, not that I'm gay myself, cuz I'm not, but most are nice, I think.

 

Don't let it bother you, we're still people

 

I think 'gays' are still normal people. Remember that.

A few of my best and closest friends are Bi and I don't see them any differently.

Really though, if he's your best friend it won't matter in the end. A friend is a friend.

 

I think you shouldn't have blown him off. It wasn't like he asked you if he was gay >.>

Besides you should accept his decision and support him. It's who he is really.

 

Yes what everyone said!! gay people are still people! and if you have a gay friend then you shouldnt treat him any less than you would treat a straight person!!!

So dont give up on him!! as i said before I wouldnt have! V_V

 

Why did you tell him off, the guy finally decided to tell someone and you blow him off :/
Well I think it's allright with gay pepole , they are human to : )So it's their choice:).
I think you should go and apologize to your friend^^

 

*sigh* I just don't know what to do anymore. He seems like a totally different person to me...you understand right?

 

Yeah , but he is still your buddy so try to get to know the new him : )
I am sure it's hard ,but remember it must have been pretty hard for him telling you that he was gay , and you blew him off.
But I am sure you will work things out with him if you just try ^^

 

No I don't understand,I don't understand how you can blow him off like that. One difference in a person and you'll think you don't know him anymore .

The guy obviously cares about you,the fact that he told must mean he trusted you to not care about this...Guess his trust should have put elsewhere then.

Really,why do you even care if he's gay? Isn't he still your best friend? A friend that has probably been there for you many times. It should be your turn to be there for him.

 

its their choice.
people are people.
Gays arent any different, they are just people.

 

Good god, I second that. Well said.

 

Exactly! Forsaken Sora!! I agree! with that one alot!!! but the point were trying to make here is dont blow off your friend for any reason what so ever because as many members said even if hes gay hes still your friend V_V

 

You really shouldn't have blown him off - I can imagine in a small town a confession like such may not be the daily norm - nevertheless regardless of that, if you truely was his friend you would accept him no matter what. I mean he's not exactly doing anything illegal - he just likes the same gender in a sexual manner, and there is nothing wrong with that.
Personally I am striaght and i don't think thats ever going to change for me, however, quite a few of my friends are gay/bi and most of my closest friends are - including my best friend. Now personally i can see nothing wrong with that, afterall their preferances are of no concern to me - in fact
Now with your friend - in a small town to come out may be harder than in someother place, and he trusted you, in the sense that you of all people should accept him for who he is. Afterall he's not hitting on you - perhaps i could understand your reaction if he had, but as it is, i think have acted a too strongly and if you were a true friend you would just accept him for who he is.

 

But now if you were listening to what the other members said its going to be diffucult trying to get him back...or not

 

Dude I completely understand how you felt! I had a friend recently tell me she was gay and that she loved me, but...your friend is still your friend it took me a while to get past that but once you have time to think ,trust me you will realise that your friendship is so much more important than to lose over that! They obviously trust you or else they wouldn't have come to you. I hope eveything works out for you :D

x

 

This is how God made him, that is what he always will be, no matter what.

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How to counter the Christians...

 

I went to see the guy these last few days...
And you know what?I didn't even care he was gay after a while.
Thanks guys.
And Forsaken_Sora you know you're right...he has always been there for me. I think it's you that really got to me. nevertheless,if everybody else didn't say something then I wouldn't have seen him again :)

 

Dude, gay friends are the best =D

He's still your friend so that shouldn't change anything, and maybe it's you who's acting different now that you know this....there's nothing wrong with him being gay unless he hits on you or somthing like that.

And I'm glad you now don't care anymore.