So theres this guy named Ashton( Ass-Chin) and hes half puerto rican and I just love puerto ricans, the way they look is just....idk , but anyway we've had trouble in the past and I wanted it to work, but all he did was listen to other people about me, so I couldn't really get through to him, so eventually I got over him and decided to just make him a bad memory, but recently he found me out of nowhere and said he was thinking about me and he said he wanted another chance so I foolishly gave it to him and for a few days he was really sweet and nice, but then he just started talking about me in front of my face and behind my back for no reason and he was ok with me asking questions and then I want to ask him questions and he says hes too high or w\e to answer them ( its alot so I'm just trying to say a few things) and it's like the smallest thing turns him off of me and recently hes been calling my sycho( yes spelled like that) with his friends and eventually I just go back to him cause I like him so much and even though its his fault I apologize. Theres also a guy named Nate who is always sweet, nice, and really athletic, but its the fact that he always so nice is what I don't want and I'm afraid to go with him because seems like I'm just gonna be able to control or walk over him.
I don't know how to say this really but you seem to have an odd way of looking at someone who is actually a 'nice' guy and not an abusive one like Ashton. Just because a guy is nice doesn't mean he has no backbone and all but why would you want to walk all over someone anyway, because that's exactly what Ashton is doing to you and you hate it? If you feel you'd just walk all over someone who is nice, you are rather aggressive yourself and need to check yourself. You aren't in the right mind frame to go out with someone if that's your major concern on why you wouldn't want to go out with a guy. Many girls would love to go out with someone like Nate because he -is- nice and athletic to boot. As for Ashton, he seems to be chauvinistic and stuck on himself. He's going to mistreat you and sadly, that can be a cultural thing. Quite a few Puerto Rican males are very egocentric and women are not treated so well by some of them. That's not to say all Puerto Rican males are that way, but it's a trend I have noticed. So you have your choice between a guy that is nice and athletic that you fear you will walk all over because you feel he's spineless or you can keep the chauvinistic, dominating guy who talks about you with insults in front of your face and behind your back, lowering your self-esteem. It's your choice or you could just break up with Ashton and take some time to get your head straight because it seems to me that you aren't sure what you want and you may just be hurting yourself here. I hope things get better for you but seriously, I wouldn't stay with a guy just because you think his ethnicity is sexy. He seems like perfect trash to me that will only bring you pain in the end.
hmmm you seem to be liking a couple guys.. well since you mentioned nate well i'm sorta like him really nice and sweet, but if you like him its alright if you talk to him a little and get to know him and if you get there you two may go out, thats how i am with my gf i'm really nice and she knows that so she treats me nicely just like i would treat her. So basicly what i'm saying is that you just treat Nate right if you like him and just ignore Ashton. I'm sorry if i didn't help.
Ashton seems like a real jerk. Does he make you happy or bring you pain? If both, which does he do more? As for Nate, do what your heart tells you.
