hi i have a girl friend that hardly talks to me and hardly even touches me we had just broke up and she wanted to get back together but when we brock up she snoged a person that i hate when i try to say that i have nothing to say sorry about she allways says that she has had a bad life an i should understan but no one seem to remember that i am a victum to i don't no what to do should i cave and say she is right or should i stay away from her what do you think
I was put in a similar position, while she wasn't my Girlfriend she was a friend. Let me guess, you found her broken, then you helped her constantly when she needed you and when you needed help she tried to draw focus on her own problems and became cold, indignant and upset when you tried to get her to supoprt you. Chances are that when no one seemed to care, when no one seemed to listen you dared to take up the mantle of her good friend and boyfriend. You gave her the care she needed and slowly you mended her. but slowly as you listened she came with more problems she saw you as he person to solve her problems and if you didn't solve it you were the problem. After that you were no longer a person merely somone who would help solve her problems and make her feel comfortable regardless of how you felt. You were an incubator of a calm illusion for her. After you mend a person you break yourself in the process. Don't Cave in, break away from her because nothing good can ever come of being with her. You will only become more broken.
_MOVED to Help With Life. If you don't want to be in a relationship with her, don't enter one. It'll just end badly. It sounds to me like the both of you have things in your life that you still need to sort out, and I think you should focus on that over being in a relationship.
If you both are having problems in your lives then you should not be planning any relationships. Work things out in your personal life before you plan on doing anything relationshipwise. And if she said that she had a lot of stuff happening in her life well then it's her fault that she didn't talk to you about her problems so you could give her support. My advice: fix your life before you think about relationships.
