Ok, well where to start...the last couple of months i've known a friend and she gets beaten by her dad on a regular basis. Now, usually i get pretty damn angry about it but feel sad because there isn't much i can do about it. Today i found out he hit her that badly she couldn't even see out of her eye. This is the frightening part: My first thought wasn't to tell the police, or even to beat him up myself..it was literally just to kill him. To murder him. That thought lingered in my mind, and i seriously considered it for about ten minutes, then the fear overtook me. What can i do to prevent this happening in the future? Is there something wrong with me? Is it possible i have a mental disorder? I don't know what to do..i don't know who to turn to..i'm not sure of anything anymore..
Umm, no, no mental disorder. Just a whole lot of rage packing inside of you. First off I suggest you find a way to expell that rage, because having that build up is not a good thing. And then, I think you might seriously want to consider calling the cops, because Child Abuse is a very serious thing, and if she actually lose her sight, that's really bad. I really don't suggest you take on something like this alone, because you might end up in the same place your friend is in
First of all, it's not good to let rage build up inside you. If you're home alone, just scream as loud as you can and let it all out. If there are family members home, either wait until you're home alone or scream as loud as you can into a pillow -- you've got to get it out of your system. As for your friend, call the police. Like Aqua said, child abuse is no laughing matter, and if she lost sight in one of her eyes, that's inexcusable. If I were you, I'd also talk to a family member you trust and respect greatly about the situation -- never handle situations like these by yourself, as Aqua stated, for the obvious reasons.
Tell someone. Really. Go to the authorities,or ask your parents to. Child abuse isnt good,and really should not be let happen. Also,has your friend been to the hospital yet? And about that rage thing,I know how you feel. But dont let it get the better of you. If this bastard of a man hits his own daughter,he wont have any trouble hitting you. So tell people about it. Your family,the cops etcetc. And its perfectly natural to feel angry if someone hurts someone you care about,and afriad about getting hurt. From what Ive seen,theres nothing wrong with you,your just scared for your friend. Hope your friend is alright,and the whole thing gets better.
Well, for your friend either you or her need to tell childline or the Police. As for your initial reaction, it's normal. When we are filled with rage we usually want to protect those we care about, plus it's known that in every human, everyone possesses the power or desire to murder- just some more strongly than others. It's our natural instincts, I'm not 100% sure why but it's really nothing to worry about. The time to worry is if you do actually kill him but apart from that it's normal, I reckon everyone has had that thought at some point, maybe I'm wrong though.
I know the story behind it, so just an fyi, no need to tell him to go the police. I've talked to him about it before. Anyway, it's normal. I've wished to kill someone, genuinely on occasion. It's rage towards someone hurting your loved one. That's how you're supposed to react. No need to worry about it. Also, you're not building up rage (which btw isn't necessarily bad, I've done it for 6 years, still all good, just need some venting once in a while). It's a common reaction, and it is the correct reaction. It's simply you wanting to protect. I do not believe a woman would feel like that about his mom, because it's how people work. However, when it happens to a woman, the man reacts. Always. Bigtime. I'll repeat what I said, you reacted perfectly. Just like you're supposed to. (Also, about killing him, I'm not gonna stop you.)
On killing the guy, I'd suggest that you leave it as an option, but only a last resort. Tell the police first. If nothing else works, go ahead if you're still considering it. Anyone who treats his daughter that way is little more than an animal. On the built up rage, I partially agree with Noroz. It's healthy to feel the way you do. However, I would suggest that you try to let out in a healthy way soon.
And that could be considered as murder. Even if the OP pleaded self-defense or he was acting in the daughter's best interest. It would be up to the court and a jury to decide. But still...not great advice. But seriously, the best thing you can do is call the police. You can report things like this anonymously and the police will investigate. If the daughter is showing injuries like you say, then it'll be obvious that something is going on and child protective services will get involved. On the rage, I won't lie to you. Rage and I are pretty good bedfellows but the key is to not let the rage get to you. Play a video game or something. Some outlet for the aggression. Even writing what you're feeling down and then ripping the paper to complete shreds helps. Tearing paper is something I do when I feel my blood start to boil and I don't have access to my PS3, like at work. Screaming is also a pretty good suggestion. I've done that a lot.
