Four things that are hard in my life include peer pressure, career outcome, Low self esteem and impressing girls. I know a lot of us go through peer pressure and at anytime we can give in to those issues. Well, I haven’t and it’s been a rough time for me. I know a lot of kids from my town that have been either smoking, taken drugs or drinking. I despise it all, because I know the outcome of it. So, I’ve been called a *** because I simply don’t drink, take drugs or smoke. I feel optimistic that I don’t do all the above, but at the same time I’m really hurt. I find myself alone and most of my friends are out enjoying themselves. There’s really no way of turning around from this. So, I just feel stuck on this issue, but I do know that what I'm doing is right. My career involves a lot in the entertainment field. It includes broadcasting, voice acting, acting and being a video editor. I’ve done a lot of fan made videos where I edit videos and add my own voice. I think it’s been successful. I’ve gotten a lot of support, but I don’t know where to go from here. It just seems like a dream and my family has never been known in this kind of field. That’s when they’ll put me down because they think it’s not reality. I’m sure many of you are also going through careers drama, but any advice? Impressing girls is another concern. I’ve liked a bunch of girls, but they are either taken, popular or they just don’t like me in that way. This is when I put myself down. I start assuming that I’m either ugly or I have an awful personality. It’s funny, but a lot of people think I’m insane when I start saying stuff, where I hurt myself or say things that "aren't true". In fact I posted some pictures of me in the picture thread on the forums and I was surprised by the comments. Anyway, I don’t know how to explain it, but I get really negative and careless about myself. It starts to take over my life. I think one day I may find that right girl, but what can I do to impress girls? Also what’s the best way from not getting so negative?
Peer Pressure: Say 'NO' it's the hardest word in the english, german, french, italian,spanish..etc language to say! But you have to. It doesn't taste so hot either. DON'T TAKE:NO MATTER WHAT: Heroine=Never get off of it,ever.It's the hardest or one of the hardest drugs to quit as soon as you put it into your system to crave it consistly.You become nothing, just a body.You loose everything for that drug. Crack=You need help, you might indanger yourself and everyone around you. CoKe= Not good.Not good at all.Just don't. Weed: It smells gross and it's illegal, not worth getting in trouble for, Smoking= You will die a very slow death from the moment you put that into your body.It destroys your lungs, your mouth, you nails, your hair etc. It will make you look bad, it will make you smell bad and most of all it will make you feel bad.Most of my cousins smoke and it's sad.They will most likely die young. All those are addicting, so would you rather be un-cool or be addicted to something for along time or even the rest of your life? Career: a.You have to know people in the field, if you want to on television or the radio to report you can't just become a reporter out of no-place. b.college degree.A must, you can't just not continue school. It's really hard to find a job without a degree. c.Get good grades,do community service, join clubs, pick up an instrument or something you want to learn.A sport,it will get you money for college. Impressing girls:Ahh, girls are funny. When they see a guy is trying to do something funny with his friends they consider it childish and foolish and give a face, I KNOW. Don't be that guy. Be the smart, cute guy in class that is polite and talks to girls like a normal human being. As for self isteem: you build it up over time.The more people you know the less you are afraid to talk to new people. EXAMPLE: My public speaking. In 6th grade: I was shaking ready to pee in my pants and speed talking. In 7th grade: I knew more people in the class so I was less afraid still a bit shaky..But I talked slow and clear.I landed a B+ on my presentation. In 8th grade: I am flawless.Just a bit of the jitters and sometimes I don't look at my peers, but at the paper I'm reading. Also,sit up straight and don't slouch, it will make people think you are less sheepish and a more straight forward person, who means business. <33Well that's my advice for you MIKE<33
Okay, i'm PROUD of what you're doing here. You're making the right choices in saying 'No' and you're doing a much better job than what i did. Seriously, I'm very proud you're saying no. Do not listen to what anyone is saying. If they call you a ***, just ignore it. They're actually either jealous that you can make something of yourself, or they're wanting to be heard. Explain to your parents how this job can affect your lifestyle and such. If they put you down, they're not doing a good job at supporting you. Explain it's like voicing over for a cartoon, or an anime. Also give examples on how your improving or what you're currently doing. Coming from a girl, try not to be so forward about it. Try getting to know someone first before asking them out or try starting a conversation about a girl and compliment on her eyes or her outfit, or the way her hair is. Be romantic around her too. I've seen your pictures on the Post Your Pic Here thread, and you're not ugly. You seem very handsome and i don't think your looks are deceiving or such forth. You seem like a nice person too, so try striking up a good conversation. I hope to talk to you in the near future. ~Cupcake
Don't let the drinking affect the time you spend with your friends. A LOT of my friends smoke & drink, but as long as you play it cool and casually avoid it and tell them off (not too harshly), you will be fine. Hang out with them even if they are drinking. If it is something like smoking in a closed room with a severe lack of ventelation, then maybe you shouldn't go hang out for that particular scenario. Even if they do those things, go have a good time anyway. I'm having the same problem, only mine is what field of science I should divulge myself in (I'm thinking chem or physics). If you're into the entertainment fields, try attending a college like Herzing (if it's near you). It's one of those new-agey colleges with all kindsa perks and whatnot. It has a great electronics program, for game designing, digital arts, construction, and the like. Most 4 year colleges (and some tech colleges) offer courses in those fields, as well. If you don't plan on attending college for these things, try getting involved with one of the recording companies somewhere near you. Now how you do that, I don't know, but it seems like a possibility. If your options are incredibly slim and you can't find any available girls, make friends with girls who are in relationships. If you like them especially. Even if you are close friends with them, if they happen to fall out of a relationship, you could rebound for them. Impressing girls is kind of annoying. I have trouble with it myself. Sadly, it's easier said than done when I say just to be chill and make tons of movie references, impressions and jokes. Especially if they don't seem to attentive to things like the internet. Also, making cute little one-on-one, inside jokes with them is fun too. It gives you an excuse to do things you'd never normally be able to do with just any old friend. As for being negative, when you're around people or girls that you like, you'll probably notice all that negativity goes away a little bit. When it does, try and make a lasting impression or act so everyone knows who you are and you're kewl with attitewd. lol I mean, do anything you normally do, just interact with people a whole lot more. It makes everything better. And if you don't know a lot of people, go and meet some people randomly. It surprised me how easy it is to just make pointless conversation, then from that end up being good pals with some people. Hope this helps. Kind of my way of saying thanks for your advice to me. :]
Thanks for the advice Famous, Cupcake and Darkwatch. It means a lot. Hopefully things will work out for the best...
