'Forgive and Forget'

I hear people say it all the time, but my question is, why forget? one: it's incredibly hard to forget something you want to forget, and two: isen't what you've been through make you who you are, good or bad?

 

Well it depends on the context of what you are talking about.

Its not easy to forget stuff, or to forgive. Its just a nicer way of saying 'get over it you panzy' I prefer the blunt way, but thats what it is. Whats done is done and there is nothing you can do to change that. So that is what the saying means.

What you go through does make you who you are, but forgiving for something or forgeting something won't change how you change yourself that much. People can make themselves.

 

Yea, I kinda knew that...I guess really, I'm just going off critsizing old sayings. >_< just a bad habit of mine.

 

There are people out there who think that 'forget' means that you do truly forget the transgression committed. It is though as said, just some way of saying 'get over it' and 'move on already'. I think the 'forget' part is also more comforting to the person who did something wrong and is truly apologetic. No one ever truly 'forgets' something though. I usually just say 'Forgive them or frag it', meaning if I can't let it go at the time, I'm going to go do something else until I can and not focus on it.

 

they want you to forgive and forget so ppl don't go getting revenge. that's because no one benefits with more sins committed. it USUALLY doesn't undo the first transgression done.

 

I believe that your history does not matter much. People change, whaether people believe it or not they do. Its trying to change them that is the hard part.
You forgive people because yo belive you can change them into something better.

 

i doubt they mean to forget. when they say forget, they mean forget who did it, don't hate. but not to forget the event entirely.

i hope that made sense =_=

 

At first, I wasn't going to reply to this... But,

To forgive is great; I have not problem with forgiving,
But you can't forget.

Sometimes, people go too far, and you can't forgive them. I know, theres one person I will never forgive. It felt like he killed me, and, i can say, he nearly did.
When someone goes that far, and when they do what he did; you won't forgive, and you won't forget.

Things like this are too strong to forget.

I feel sorry for everyone who has been through this before, or will go through this in the future;
1 in 4 women will be sexaully abused.
That means you will no doubt meet someone who has been or will be sexually abused.
Even if you don't know it.

I will never forgive. I will never forget.

And true, as much as I didn't want this to happen, it did, and so it makes me who I am today, as Kikame pointed out.

 

It's hard to forget, forgivings easy, I can handle that. But, forgetting, is the most difficult thing I could do. There's alot of things I'd like to forget. *shrugs*

 

The forget and forgive thing annoys me,seriously.
But you can forgive and forget a silly argument but if it's something like a betrayal or something really serious,you can forgive (ofcourse if you're a nice person..) but how can you forget?
It makes you think "I will never trust this person ever".

Atleast that's what I think...

 

Nice in theory, incredibly hard to actually live by.

What a monster...thank goodness you made it out alive.
You can't forgive or forget, this is just one of those things that will follow you around for the rest of your life; makes it all the more disgusting. Total selfish controling *******...

 

*hugs Angel*

For me personally, I find it really hard to forgive and forget.

I will never forget the things that this one boy said to me, and what he said about my family and friends. I have forgiven him, but not forget it.

My friend is the queen of forgiving. Shes one of those people who even if its deffinatly not her fault, she go and try to forgive the person, when she deffinatly shouldnt.

It all really depends on the situation.

 

awww. *MAJOR HUGS* Thank goodness you're fine now.

But about forgiving and forgetting. Well there was one thing that was bugging me recently and I decided it was best to forgive him. Anyway I do it all the time it's not too hard for me to forgive people and forget about it. But then again if it was something traumatic then it's hard to forget. But I think we do our best to be the best we can as far as forgiving and forgetting but like me and a few others have said it's really hard to live by.

 

I don't really agree with the 'forgive and forget' saying. Rather, I try to live by 'forgive, but don't forget'. We are usually taught (and we see it a lot in television shows, mainly childrens cartoons) that revenge is never the answer, and that we shouldn't hold the hatred to our hearts and let it consume us (hence the forgiving). On the other hand, we shouldn't forget what happened, not only to make us stronger from the encounter, but to make sure what happened will not happen again.

But that's what I think. There's most likely a better interpretation than mine.