Feel like I've hit rock bottom

It seriously sucks. I've never felt so ******. At the very least, in a long time.

There's a girl that I really like and I'm pretty sure she doesn't like me back, even though I've told her and tried advancing things with her. She has like 30 other guys that like her, too, which makes me really confused.

I dunno, I've never felt this attracted to someone. At least IRL.

Either that, or she is just hella good at hiding how she feels.

And no, I've never had this type of feeling about someone IRL before. Normally I am really not interested in girls, but this year changed when I met someone that was so piercing that my habits and everything seem to have changed.

So I ask this: does anyone know what I should do? Or at least some advice of some kind. It sounds cliche and whatnot, obviously, but I suck at being my own counselor. I need someone else. xD

 

First off, you haven't hit rock bottom Darkwatch. This is a common problem for a lot of people. In fact it also happened to me. Instead of me only liking one girl, I also liked four and my chances with them were slim. Instead of them dating me, I managed to be good friends with them. My advice to you is to confront her again. Ask her if she's interested in dating you, if not then sadly you'll have to accept it. If you don’t accept it and you annoy the girl, you could possibly drive her away from you for good.

If she does say no, don't think of yourself negatively. You have to remember that everyone is interested in a different type of person. I can see that you really like her, but don't get yourself hurt. Prepare yourself and just move on. Again, if she does say no, ask her if you can be at least friends with her.

 

You haven't hit rock bottom.

If you really like her then ask her out over time ,or talk to her even more than you already do,become friends.
Show those other boys confidence and that you got this.
Girls like boys who can step up to the plate, but not be childish.
Don't make a fool out of yourself, just keep it cool.

And if she rejects you then it's destiny.It might not be nice but its only fair that you try to go after somebody else that will appreciate what a good person you are.

 

Ah well the thing is, her and I are already really good friends. It's just I've never spoken to her face-to-face about me being interested in her.

I also have no idea how I'd ask or say anything. I've never had to ask anyone out face-to-face before. It's always been them who ask me. What I'm trying to avoid is an overly cheesy attempt at asking her out.

This week is finals week for us, so I don't want to do it until at least Friday (which was when I planned on doing it, ironically).

Thanks, Mike, Famous. :]

 

Just walk up to her and ask her if she wants to go somewhere with you later. I wouldn't recomend mcdonalds though. If you have trouble getting yourself to go through with it, just make yourself not think. Keep your mind blank.

 

Firstly - why are you so against asking her out and it being cheesy? Trust me, its really touching if a guy is cliched, cheesy when asking. I think its cute anyway 8D And if she likes you she'll find it touching.

Just go ahead and ask her. I've never asked anyone out either, but I feel it's about time I broke tradition and tried. If she says no she won't think any less of you and I doubt she would ignore you or anything if she's a good friend of yours.

And I'm sure you're better than the other guy competition 8D


And dude, you are nowhere near rock bottom. I was almost once. Problems with girls is.. not that bad. Can be solved. Good luck ;D

Just go for it.

 

Your welcome, I'm not done now.Ahah(:

Okay, well..if you've never talken to her face to face before..

Usually before I give public speeches I practice in the mirror to see if it makes sense..So practice in the mirror on what you would like to say.

Say something like:

"You look nice today" to start things off.
Compliments never hurt.

 

Giving Dark some advice, this is a first.

I can relate to you in a few areas, and the best advice I can give you is this:

Try.

I know that youve said that you guys are good friends, so if you decide to ask her if she wants to maybe grab some food or see a movie or something, you can counter any hesitation with saying that you guys are friends.

I know that may sound confusing, but simple things like this may seem like the opposite of what you are going for, but over time, it will strengthen your connection, and then the friendly nights could eventually turn into a date in the future.

At the very least, if she is seeing 30 guys then she will realize that you aren't like the rest of them, and it will work points for you.
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I know you guys keep saying "go out with her" and stuff, but I don't have accessible transporation, and it isn't exactly like I live in the middle of the city. Though I see what you are getting at. The most I can do is go to her house or she comes to my house. We've done it twice before, anyway.

And yes. I think I will try. 8D I just needed some reassurance like the kind you gave me, OWS. Also, Shades, you're right.

Dang. If only I had gotten my drivers license sooner. lawl

 

Ehh, if you only had your license.
Maybe, just wait, then ask her outt :3
What are you 14,15 or 16?

 

I'm 17, turning 18 next month. She's 16 (recently turned it Sept. 10th, and I started really hanging out with her like, 3 days afterward. LOL).

And y'know, it really doesn't bother me I don't have a car right now. I should still try and ask her out. When I get a car it'll be easier, but I really feel like I should start slow on this one. What do you guys think? D:

 

Do it! no point wasting time... if you like her, tell her, if she doesn't feel the same way then ask yourself, is she really worth it? You cant keep these things to yourself or they will not advance at all... Plus, if she really likes you then transport or no, you can still show her a good time in other ways... its not all about dates, or sex, or stuff like that... some relationships thrive and flourish on just spending time with, and sometimes, away from, that person...
Put it this way: "It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all."

 

Oh.Then in that case..you should take it slow.
Until you have the proper things to actually take her on a date because; MOM or Dad in the car is akward, take it form someone who knows.

 

Well, good news everyone: she just got a boyfriend. Like, 6 days ago.

So this one is out the window. lol Thanks for your help anyway guys. I'm pretty settled not going for her anyway. It may seem like I'm giving in, but I've never liked the feeling of liking someone anyway (in the long run). It's way too stressful.

-asplds-

Still, at least now I can still be friends with her.

 

Well, it wasn't meant to be.That's okay (:

You can be friends.Find another girl to crush on, I want to hear all about it.​

 

If she confides in him about boyfriend troubles, that means he's officially friendzoned and theres no way she'd have feelings for him.

 

Sadly, TMM is pretty much right.

It's always been that way with girls I know. I tried getting emotionally connected in those ways, but it never works like you'd think.

It might not always come out to be the friendzone scenario, though. I've had cases where they like me a lot more because they feel they can trust me.

Even then, it doesn't last for very long.

 

It sucks when we get cold feet and actually like someone else a lot that is a good friend. I'm sorry you lost this girl because someone beat you to the punch. The one thing I can suggest is that next time you like a girl, try to not be so hesitant and just go ask her out on a date. It isn't cliche' or pathetic to do so. Just be prepared to hear a 'no' since well, it happens. If you can accept the possibility of being rejected and move on, then you can also be happy as hell if she accepts. That's really the key to it all is to know you can come out losing so if you can work with that, go ahead and ask a girl out you like and things will sometimes work in your favor and if they don't, you'll be ok. It will help you get over the cold feet issue. Again, sorry you lost out on this one. It sucks but is kind of a lesson to be learned. :/

 

well you dont' really NEED a car to go out with someone. in middle school, me and a girlfriend just took a bus everywhere. but anyways, even if she has a boyfriend, you can still be friends with her. but it's in your best interest to not get all caught up in a relationship that can't happen.