I'm always depressed when I'm at my mom's house, and then my stepdad started threatening to beat the shit out of me if I didn't start doing chores, homework, going out with my mom and sis, and stop staying up in my room all day. The thing is, I do my chores, and I do my homework. I keep my grades to AT LEAST passing at all times, and I don't go out with my mom and sister because they won't want me with them. I stay up in my room all day because I'm afraid of my stepdad, and I don't want him screaming at me. Things only got worse when my boyfriend and I got engaged(don't lecture me on this. I'm not pregnant or anything, I'm just graduating from school a year early, and we love each other). Basically, I went to live with my dad for a couple weeks, and I called my mom today to see when she might want me to come back home, and she told me that she doesn't want me back because everything is so much more peaceful without me there... How should I react to this? I like being at my dad's better, but... knowing that my mom doesn't want me back makes me feel... Very upset. I don't know what to do.
ok well first, no offense, your step-dad sounds like a dick and you should try to stay away from him and also since you really arent doing anything wrong you shouldnt take crap like that. also congrats on the engagement i hope you two are happy together. also if you like it at your dad's then stay i mean if your mom is that much of a ,pardon my french, stupid bitch that she doesnt want you then tell her to fuck off. but look if you are happy with your soon to be husband and happy at your dad's the just say the hell with it and to the others who are trying to make you feel bad because they are only covering up their own problems because they are obviously inferrior to you and want to drag you down.
Sometimes you just have to accept that your parents aren't perfect. I'm sure there's a part of your mother that loves you, but maybe you two need tim apart to figure things out for yourselves. I don't have a great relationship with my dad and I tend to avoid going to his house, and yeah, it's hard, and I hope that things aren't like this forever. But right, now this is where we are. So I guess what I'm trying to say is give it time. Right now your mom's life doesn't sound very stable (as AmericanSephiroth put it... your stepdad does kind of sound like a dick), but maybe, with time, things will improve with time.
Do your best to avoid your stepdad and try not to do anything that would make him more furious. Does he drink or anything like that? My dad always got mad and yelled and all that when he was drunk. Try talking to your mom some more and see if you can convince her that your afraid of him and see if she'll let you stay with her again. If your dad hits you even once, tell your mom and if she won't do anything about it, think about calling the cops. It might not be something you want to do, but they might be able to help even a little. In my street law class, we've been learning about child abuse. Your dad threatening you isn't physical abuse, but it's still abuse. I wish you the best of luck and hopefully things will turn out better for you in the end.
I see you did the right thing calling your mom asking if she wants you back :D If she doesn't, that's her problem. You did what you had to do. Don't back off, stay where you are ;)
well listening to this....yes that's sad....and the thing is you like being at your dad's right? And not at your mom's? I can see what's going on here. Your mom is being clear of your and her feelings. You should try talking to her face to face not phone to phone. Go to her and explain all what you told us. Here's what i learned: Communication is the best thing anyone can ask for. It is what makes an relationship. The thing is your mom and you need to do the same. She still not and same goes with your sister and stepfather? Give the space. Don't be hurt by it. It's called Stubborn and the way of life. Family memmbers are people. Which Means different and Types. And in those Types you have the don't-listen-don't-understand-wants-everything-to-go-their-way type.(your stepfather seems like the type no offense). Try and follow advice. Talk to your dad see if he can help or better yet get professionally help. I want you to teasure your mom. My mom died when i was 13. I had been a teenager. Imagine that? then she dies. I don't think you want that (well no one does unless its a case of pure hate). Please try. Good luck!
Oohh I've been with one of those over abusive parents/step parents. Thats why when I was beaten, I reported him to the police. Sorry for that, but I think that it is best just to stay away from your mom right now, let her think about things clearer. Don't bug her on like I did with my Dad. Hopes it helps, and congrats on your engagement!
