Lately, I've been avoiding a lot of people that I met on here, in favor of various other people I also met on here. For some reason, the first people don't interest me anymore at all, but I can't figure out how to tell them, because, I like them, but I just don't see how we can be friends. Am I being a bad person and just picking sides, or have I really changed that much? I want to figure this out before it's too late and I say somethinh to the people who don't interest me anymore :c please help.
Since I'm one of the people you're apparently forgoing older friends in favour of, I'm not sure how much help I can be, but you should know that while drifting away from and finding you just don't like people as much as you used to isn't unusual, and it doesn't reflect anything particularly negative about you. Friendships are fluid, and while some people you remain friends with all your life, those people are rare.
Not at all. Part of life is change. Who you surround yourself with will always be fluid. The trick is, thinking about why exactly you're foregoing certain people for others. Are you trying to get out of a bad situation? Are the people having a negative influence on you? Do you just want to shake it up, start fresh? There's nothing wrong with expanding outwards. At this age, you're still figuring out who you are and who you want to surround yourself with. Don't shackle yourself to old friendships. However, there's no reason to burn bridges. Even if someone isn't your best bud 5ever anymore, that doesn't mean you completely have to drop contact with them or hold any kind of grudge.
There's nothing wrong with losing interest in people, it happens. You don't have to cut off all contact necessarily, but that's your choice. If you feel like you just want to take a break for a while just tell them, i'm sure they'd understand. This doesn't make you a bad person, it happens to everyone. Friendships come and go, for instance there are people from my school career that i'll never see again, and some i've already forgotten. It's a part of life.
HoT it happens and you just have to deal with this in your own way. I know what your going through I went through it myself not too long ago. As you said yourself at one point you are going through some phases and as you do your interests change which means you lose interest in things your friends may still like. You lose what you have to talk to them about so you lose interest in talking to them since they keep mentioning it. That is all part of life and you can drift away from old friends and make new ones because you have something to talk about. But if you want to keep the old friends try and find something else to talk to them about. But to answer your question no it doesn't make you a bad person it just makes you Human.
I don't really know what to say, except just because you make new friends doesn't mean you have to give up your old friends. If that's how you want to go about making friends in life, though, I guess good luck.
Maybe you're like me: you just need to be away from people sometimes. Sometimes I avoid my best friend. Sometimes I ignore his calls or texts and sometimes come up with excuses not to hang out. He's still my best friend and when I ignore him it's not because I'm tired of being friends, I just don't want to be around people. I'm this way with some new friends I just got in the past few moths, it's nothing personal, I just like to be away from people sometimes.
Thanks bro, means a lot. I see... Right, I may have to tell them before they suspect something's wrong. Amaury, I'm... not entirely sure where you're coming from...
Sorry, I probably didn't word that right. I've had two good friends, as well as general friends (those that are busy with activities, so it's very hard to schedule a hangout), since elementary school. When I went to middle school and high school, I made a lot more friends, but I was still friends with those people that were already friends of mine Of course I've lost contact with some friends, but that's mostly because after choosing to repeat the fifth grade, one of my friends moved at the end of fifth grade (and I actually just found what I believe is him on Facebook, lol) -- I'm sure others have moved from back then, but that's the only one I can think of. As for the others, I don't remember a lot of their names and / or they don't have a Facebook. In short, when you make new friends, don't stop being friends with your old friends. You never know: your new friends could turn out to be dicks.
I'm kinda just repeating what everyone's already said, but yeah, just because you've lost interest in people now doesn't have to mean you let go of them forever. Change is absolutely normal, it's human. It's what keeps the world turning. But there's nothing wrong with having new buds now and just having your old buds there somewhere. And I mean friends come and go, and some may even come back again. For example, I just had this Christmas party last week and met with some of my old friends who I rarely talk to anymore, and suddenly I find I'm having a great time and we're talking again. So if there's really no real reason to burn the bridges, then I guess you don't have to. :)
Honestly, I may sound like a broken record, but these people are right. (And agreeing with so many others on this forum has never happened to me before) And I know you won't read this. I know you don't care for my opinion on things. I am just here to state my mind on the matter, and no, its not a bad thing. But for people like me who don't change, what happens to us? Our friends who do change leave us behind. They just shove us in a corner with the rest of the matters they don't think about anymore. People like me never change their personality. I know might think that that is a nightmare because I seem immature, but the truth is that I am just a wacky person. That part of me has never changed. I am like that crazy clown you see in your dream. He seems innocent, wasky and stupid, but if need be he will stab you with the cold, hard knife himself. Even at the cost of his own happiness. If I need be for me to be serious and mature, I do. But, I am a child at heart, the crazy, wacky child who dose not ever learn from mistakes. I am cold and serious inside of myself, yet a wacky and annoying fellow from the outside. What I am merely sating here, is that I am sorry for the events that happened previously between us, HoT. I do not expect you to forgive me ever, let alone see this post. But I had to clear my conscience because if I did not, I would feel like I would have regretted it for the rest of my life. All and all, I still think you're a cool guy, and wish to be friends again, but I do not wish for you to go out your way to forgive me, I do not want to be forgiven, but I did want to know that you could at leas had a chance to see this. So long for now, KHV, the serious me needs to go away for a while, but I will be back when I am needed again. And one last word to you, HoT, Live a good life if we never speak again. Sincerely and truly, -Starseeker3
