Do You Think Parents Really Don't Understand?!

I ask for myself why are my parents pressuring me into getting into Job Corps and accelerating my time to finish the classes I am currently taking in College. I mean, I actually got into Job Corps at my starting date, but the fact is that I have no other way of getting back in time to finish taking the finals for this semester, especially when I am so close to having my Associate's Degree in Art mailed in. But no, no matter what I said, there's just no way of reasoning with them. Now, I have to make sure that I talk to a counselor over another college and see if I could take the current classes this semester for next semester online hopefully all because my parents don't seem to understand that I can't be in two places at once like I am suppose to be some Super Kid and that I find it very difficult to reach their expectations.

Now, do you really that it seem fair to you or not?!

 

You know what I would do? I would just march up to them, tell them to back off and let me do what i'm capable of doing. Then even if they tried to do more things like that, I would just carry on with what i'm able to do.

 

It isn't so much that they don't understand, I think. It's that sometimes parents become shrouded by the fact they want to do a good job raising you to be a good person. Sometimes it is over the edge and sometimes it is with sincerity to secure your safety.

In a lot of ways I think if parents weren't so overbearing at times, children would be much more down to Earth (and in that respect, when they are adults, too).

In your respect, Roxasfan, I do think your parents are overbearing and being overly controlling. You're an adult and you should be able to make that decision yourself (since you're in college after all). Plus it is your life. Just because you live with your parents (I think?) doesn't mean you have to heed their every command. I'm afraid if you made that point, however, they would kick you out or something. So I don't think it is very fair, although it depends on what is truly going to benefit you in the future; job corps or college? Personally, I'd go with the one that yields more income in the future than in the Now.

 

It sounds like they are finding it difficult to 'let go' of you and let you assert your independence. I wouldn't take it too hard, i'm in the same boat. Really, they believe that they are doing the best thing for everyone, by advising you and pushing you in one direction.
I'd say, sit down and talk to them, just tell them straight out that you've got your own thoughts and ideas about your own life. You care for them and you appreciate it, but they have to understand that you're your own person. You make the choices, and ask them to try and understand.
Best of luck.

 

Sounds like my parents right before I entered college. They were just bewildered that their kid was all grown up and was leaving the nest. They were trying to act out their last acts as parents while I was trying tell them to let go of me already so I wouldn't miss my train to school.

Best thing you can do is calmly tell them that it's time you made your own choices in your life, because that's the best way you'll learn about the wolrd around you. It'll be hard on them at first, because you're their little precious bundle of joy and will forever be, but they'll settle down after a bit.

 

when it comes to technology, they usually really don't understand, but they have been through what you're going through in most situations. even if times were different then, they still have a general idea what's going on

 

It's unfortunate that some (and I mean most) parents lack understanding, isn't it? However, I'd like to think it's because they love you that much; smothering you with love and unfortunately, directions to what they believe is the best path for you in life. Can't blame them for loving you, but it's troublesome for everyone at that point in someone's life. It's one of those things where the answer isn't in your grasp..... it's hard to find what to do when your parents are loving you sick. =\

 

My parents don't let me do much of anything except school work... My dad expected me to study higher level school textbooks all summer... I really wanted to tell him off but I couldn't... :(