Last night I went on a date with my BF and a group of friends. We went to a little diner and all hell broke lose! There was a trampy blonde waitress he was flirting with. WTF was that!! So I held tight until our smoothies/ pudding came. My friends and I dumped that crap all over him. I never knew my ex would look so good covered in chocolate pudding an strawberry banana smoothie The waitress was defending him like what the hell!!!! I was about to grab her by the back of the head and throw a punch. Really she was wearing a wig over a fuked up hair job... My guy friends were pissed at him... I felt like crap at first but I think he deserved it... Whatta you think? Was it right? Did I do the right thing?
Let me see if I've got this straight. You were out with your BF and some friends. Your BF started flirting with a waitress, so you broke up with him and had your friends dump their desserts on him? The waitress then tried to step in, and you wanted to grab her and hit her, but you didn't? As for whether you did the right thing: You've lost a boyfriend, you're probably banned from a restaurant and you got the satisfaction of throwing ice cream at your boyfriend. If you could do the situation over, would you do things differently?
If you're asking if it was wrong, then yes, it probably was. If you don't feel any regret, then no, it wasn't wrong.
No. Im not banned. He deserved it. You mess with a ****ing waitress in front of you girlfriend. What an A$$!!! You just dont do that...:/ It was there idea to I felt bad but 4 real it wasnt right...
Honestly I don't think you should have listened to your friends in this situation. If your boyfriend was flirting with somebody else, talk to him about it and tell him that you don't like it. I mean he does have a pair of ears for listening.
I will not apologize!!!! If you guys are saying it was wrong, it probably was.if you cant see the facts right then i guess everyones a jerk!!! I didnt do the wrong thing i did the right thing. My life was never perfect!! Its because of heartless jerks like you!!!!!:',(
Depends how long they were together. If it was the first date, then it's probably not worth the effort to try to patch over problems. It's easier just to jump ship. Clearly it was socially acceptable to dump the dessert on him, so I see nothing wrong. Furthermore, she's actually gained respect in the eyes of her friends, as she followed their suggestions.
Well.....sure its annouying and rude when your BF flirts with a waitress,but if I were you I would have just ignored him....for days. Until he was ready to apologise. However,if you feel like youve done the right thing,well then well done :D
Never said you had to apologize to him. I just think that the situation could've been handled better.
No, you didn't do the right thing. You did the immature thing to do. Throwing some beverage at your boyfriend is so typical of teenage movies. I'm not saying it was okay of your boyfriend to flirt, but what you did was also wrong. In a relationship, you don't go out of your way to embarrass the other person, same goes to the fact that he disrespected you by flirting. Also, I need to ask you to please tone down your posts. No one here is out to get you; no one has been rude or mean, or a jerk. So please respect the other posters, they're here to help. <3
Really agree with P here, what do you gain by breaking up with your boyfriend because he was flirting right in front of you. The fact he was doing it right in front of you was either becasue he as an idiot with no sense of morals or he didn't feel like your relationship was at threat by simply flirting with someone right in front of you and believed you'd not worry about simple flirting. Unless he was grinding her right in front of you I wouldn't of worried that your relationship was endanger. Instead you jumped to conclusions, with no evidence he was serious about breaking up with you, and listened to your friends about throwing stuff at him because your unhappy? And then the waitress, who's job is to please the customers and serve them, defended your 'ex-boyfriend' after you threw stuff at him, and you were annoyed at her for that? Were you wrong morally? Yes. Were you wrong logically? Yes. In conclusion you did the wrong thing. But by the sound of it, if you were that easily threatened of losing your boyfriend to someone he just met I would have guessed that relationship wouldn't have lasted. Maybe it's for the best.
No. That was most definitely not the right thing to do in any light. Except for maybe emotionally, you might have felt like you did the right thing based off of the hurt you were feeling. It was extremely immature of you. You should have talked it out with him. Asked him why he was flirting, or explained that it had hurt you that he was. Dumping stuff on his head and attempting to beat up a waitress, who's doing her job in trying to prevent violence, was not the way to go. However, I understand how it is to be worked up emotionally and do things without really thinking about it. Obviously, he was in the wrong for flirting with her, but you could have handled it a tad better. If you were going to get defensive to begin with, then I don't think you should have posted this thread asking for people's opinions. You have to be willing to admit that even though he was in the wrong, the way you handled it wasn't right either.
I was wrong. I shouldve never went out with him. I was wrong. I shoulve never wanted to fight her. I was blind. Knowing the waitress is his other GF. I was wrong. I shouldve never posted this thread. I was wrong. I was wrong. I was wrong. I was right on one thing. I am right on two things. I was wrong. I was blind. As everyone used to say: Troubled people have a hard way of seeing the truth in life... I guess im just one of them...
It is okay to lose it sometimes. If someone does something that offends you, it's natural to feel upset. Don't beat yourself up about that. The key is to be able to discern whether what you're thinking of doing is the right thing, or if it's an act of blind rage. It's good that you questioned your actions and are able to see that they were wrong. That puts you miles ahead of the people that would just stubbornly stand by what they did. That shows that at the very least, you're able to see fault in yourself, analyze what you did, and care about the opinions of others. That's more than a lot of people can say. Maybe this experience will teach you to think things out before you do something you'll later regret. Don't beat yourself up about it; you can't take back what happened, but you can make sure it doesn't happen again.
maybe it was an overreaction from your side but even I would do the same thing I guess or I would flirt with another girl. But I won`t say right now if your reaction was true or false. Sometime we do things where feeling right about them but after a while we`re gonna regret it.But what happend just happend and we can`t change it. But always think positive. Maybe everything gonna be right.
Um... Did he have two girlfriends? If so, I'm sorry to have to ask this; why the hell would you even want to go out with a person like that? I despise people who are players and therefore I despise him (if that's the case). Nevertheless, what you did was immature, but I know it can be difficult to handle emotions, and if you're young it's easy to act out more "aggressively" over emotional obstacles . And like Misty is saying, don't beat yourself up over it. For example, I had quite a few emotional train wrecks (at least it felt like it at the time) when I was between 14-16 ish. I beat myself up over it a couple of times, until I realized that won't do jack. You can pity yourself as much as you want to, but it won't do you any good. Besides, you might feel hurt and mistreated now, but in a while you'll realize he was a *bad word* for doing what he did, but you were also acting childish by dumping your drink on him. But that's life, you give and you get. **** happens -> Cry a river -> Build a bridge -> Go over it with your head held high. Learn from your mistakes, what's done is done and what will be, will be. It may not seem simple, but I know for a fact it's as simple as that. So hold your head high and forget about it, there will be someone else, trust me.
