Well, it all pretty much started at the beginning of school. There were a bunch of rumors going around that I liked this one guy (who shall be called G). I got frustrated, so I started telling everyone I didn't like G because I had an internet boyfriend. At the time, the truth was that I only liked a guy on the internet. Later, the guy I liked actually became my boyfriend. I told a few friends at school, but I guess some people overheard. Then people started going up to me and telling me that the guy was some 40 year old creep and I needed to be careful. I knew that it was because they didn't want me getting hurt, so I didn't really care. But recently, it's starting turning into teasing, people telling me I'm going to be raped or killed, even people throwing basketballs at my head. I'm really starting to get frustrated, but I don't know what I should do...
I got a similar thing a few years back, the best thing to do is to ignore it or give them a taste of their own medicine by using something about them against them.
Well, I propose ignoring all those comments and waiting until it dies down. As for physical abuse, just stay relatively close to your P.E. teacher and your friendly classmates so they won't have the guts.
Internet relationships are a complete controversial subject when talked about by ignorant people(Which is your typical everyday person in this world.) People believe that the majority of internet users are paedophiles, and this idea is given to them via news stories and extremely exaggerated documentaries. So to be honest, it doesn't come as much as a surprise that they immediately get that impression. So yeah. I would advise to both ignore them, Tell a friend(or someone you can trust) about it, and tell your abusers that it really isn't any of their business whatsoever.
Im going to have to disagree. You do NOT want to sink to their level.|: The best thing you can really do is ignore them. If they continues physically doing things such as the throwing basketballs, I know its so cliche, but tell a trusted adult :/ Im sorry I cant give any better advice
I have to agree with Rosey, if they're throwing basketballs at you tell a trusted adult. Also don't sink to their level it just might make them act worse.
Firstly, them throwing basketballs at your head, sweetie thats actual physical abuse, get their assses done for that. Secondly, it is true that yes sadly some cases of internet relationships do end badly in that way. Its not what you want to hear, but it is truth, so people saying that is only to be expected when you get into a relationship with someone you don't technically "know" That being said, irl relationships are far from always safe. Teasing is something very common in High School and really you have to learn to just let it go over your head. You have your close friends so stick with them, if the other kids want to be ******tards all you can do is ignore it. Don't retaliate, that only makes things worse, trust me, as tempting as it is to punch them in the face, it isn't worth it. The only thing I can do is offer to be there if you ever need to talk. I'm sorry you're having a rough time hun, you don't deserve it.
I've been trying to ignore it... And the basketball thing just happened today, and I didn't get a chance to tell anyone... And I wasn't planning on sinking to their level. 1, because I know it's wrong, and 2, because I suck at being mean XD
I'm going to admit that I completely agree with MSUK. Seriously, my parents are pretty concerned about the whole internet relationship thing (my mom more than anybody). They're all like "I don't want you ending up dead, your funeral, blah blah, etc." How may I ask is that different from IRL relationships? My opinion about the whole thing is that if the relationship's meant to be and you both really care strongly about each other, despite what internet-ignorant people think, your affection towards each other will endure and hopefully last. :) As for the basketball thing, it's all a test of patience. Try not to let it get to you. Most of them will grow out of it by the time you graduate. Just let your affection be your shield.
This actually helped XD I realized that no matter what they say, they really can't do anything to change it. Ultimately, who I like is my decision.
I Agree MAJORLY. If you try to just fight back, they get worse as the days go on. And with you saying you have an internet boyfriend made it worse. They could switch to something far more absurd then that. Rumors spread like a disease. Gossip is the same. I even gossip myself. But anyway, just ignore, or get a back bone, and tell a teacher, or the principle about it. I know the principle sounds a bit overrated, but it's the best for you to do. Exspecially if their a disaplinary. They deffinatly get the job done. Bullying is taken to the far level since that girl died from Cyber Bullying.
Personally I would pray that the physical thing was a one-off. As for the teasing, I'm known as a gay necrophiliac (No, neither is true. Don't ask...). It's really just a big joke. Ignoring it is just a way of showing it is getting to you. You need to show that you aren't bothered by the teasing at all by cracking a few jokes about it or just laughing along. Next time it is brought up, why not say something along the lines of "No no no! It's not an online relationship any more, at least it won't be soon. He wants me to meet him in a dark allyway in town at midnight, so this proves that he's not a paedophile because he's going to meet me, so HAH!" Then if they laugh, then you've just starting the stopping of the teasing, because you've shown you aren't serious. If they take you seriously, make some harsh abrasive comment on how it was sarcasm and that they should learn to recognize it. If you want you can trail off into a tale of how if they don't get better social skills they will end up a hobo/hooker on the streets, murdered by a rapist. Or perhaps that's just the sort of thing I'd say. Meh.
I think I'm gonna stick with ignoring them... Besides, I talked with him, and now I don't really care what they say anymore. It's not like they have any say in how I choose to live my life anyway. I'm not gonna let a few immature high schoolers stop me from talking to him. I know that no matter what they say, I'll still care about him, and he'll still care about me. And that's really all that matters.
never fight back the best thing to do would be to is ignore it. it is like who can hold out longer. if needed let them get it out of their systems because they will see they get no reaction out of you and thats their goal. they will move on
not sure what to do about the basketballs but the teasing is something you can ignore. most of the time when someone is teasing another person, they're just playing around and probably don't want that person to get mentally scarred, you can keep that in mind that they're probably just messing around. but in time they'll get tired of it if they stop getting fresh material to use, just hold out a while. i guess what i'm trying to say is to not take it too seriously and not to stress out about it. i was teased too in high school, don't ask me how but somehow a rumor spread bout me having AIDS and people wouldn't shut up about it, i thot it would never end but eventually it was all forgotten. to be honest, it was kinda funny tho.
dont let the people teasing you know that it bothers you because if they see it is making you sad/angry/depressed they will use that as ammo so to speak and have more to pick on you with
internet relationship sometimes maybe dangerous, but if u know the person very well i'm sure you will be fine. High school is always like this.. gossip , rumours , spilling dirt..all i think is these people made up rumours and all just to spice up their boring lives..its best to ignore what they say...it happened to me too, although it hurts alot what they say to me..i just stop contacting them.. About you're boyfriend on the internet well if u haven't met him up i suggest you bring a friend along which will be much safer =)
I know how you feel, i have been teased many times before,you learn to ignore it, but if your going to say anything back,if you have webcammed with him before say you have so they know he's not an old guy. But you should just walk away and stay around your friends.
