Alright, i've been friends with this person for about a year, was really close with them but now it seems like i only argue with them constantly, but i still feel as though there's some hope for them, that deep down "the real them" is still there and i really hope that one day i get to see them like that again.. On the other hand, two friends that i've been friends, one of which that i've been friends with for a couple of years now, are really nice to me and pretty much always have been. The first friend i mentioned HATES the other two, and has now told me i have to choose between the first friend and the other two. I have absolutely no idea what to do, i really really don't want to make this choice. Any advice?
If he' s adamant about his choice then there' s nothing you can do about it. Well, you might ask why he' s upset and try to reconcile them in the long run, but it sure won' t happen overnight. I' m not sure I understand his ultimatum though, is he ok with you hanging with the other two as long as he' s not there ? Or is he not okay with you seeing the other two at all ? If it is the latter then screw him, he' s pushing his problems onto you and that' s not a friendly thing to do.
I have been in a similar situation some time ago. Mine may have been different since both were trying to make me choose. So what I'd do is tell your friend "I don't like ultimatums so either take it back or we are done" But that is me you should do what is right for you. Can you live without any of these friends?
This^ If this person is really your friend he wouldn't ask you to ditch the other two. A real friend wouldn't put you in that kind of situation. Like Patman said though, you can try and get them to reconcile. If that doesn't work, i'd just explain how you don't want to make that choice and if this person is your friend they wouldn't make you make that choice.
Yeah What Nights said is exactly what I meant too. Walk away from the one who pushes you to make such a choice.
