[Do not know if this has been done] After reading "A Child Called It" by David Pezler, I've been thinking of this topic. How is it that there are people out there cruel enough to harm innocent children? What in the world started this stream of violence? Discuss your thoughts.
I do know about this stuff and understand it better than most so I know what im talking about when I say-Anybody who harms a child has enough power do stop themselves-Despite the rage or whatever their feeling...But I find it disgusting that they dont.
I know about child abuse it's wrong it can hurt kids feeling and they never be happy i been stuff like that still it's just wrong sometimes i wanna help abused child get a nice happy home.
People are ruled by their emotions. They are selfish and hit and abuse because they like the feeling of power, they want to control someone or they like violence. It's something I personally can't comprehend. That feeling to hit someone younger or more vunerable than yourself... I have felt it. I've even liked it for a second, but after… I was disgusted at myself, hated what I could do to someone else… how a person could do that everyday is what I can only describe as evil. The potential is there and we all must keep vigilant to not let it go unheard of in our world ever again. Man I sound like a politician.
I think it is pretty disgusting to be honest. However, it is so easy to say that people should just control themselves; sometimes it is a lot harder to put that into practice. I think abuse of any kind is wrong, especially when it is directed at someone as vulnerable as a child, but I don't think the abuser is neccessarily evil; sometimes they need help too.
Oh also, if you're dealing with a psycho/sociopath, they don't have any empathy whatsoever (and that's one of the things that governs how you treat others), so obviously they wouldn't be above hitting children if it benefited them or if the children got them particularly angry.
I recently had to read that book for school. I think it's so cruel that someone could do all those things to an innocent kid who did nothing wrong. I also think it's amazing that David was able to get through all that he had to suffer through and actually survived. If I was in his position, I would either kill myself or just let myself die. My thoughts on child abuse is mainly that no kid deserves to be abused. The most abuse they should have to suffer is being yelled at when they did something truly wrong.
Meh. Hitting a child is useful to get a precise message through their heads...everytime they do THAT particular thing that they did completely wrong, or they were out of line etc, they will get hit. However, full abuse isn't what I would have in mind for a child..in fact, it only makes them go to school and brag about how their parents beat them.( I know someone that does that..) Anyways.....yeah... Lol.
Having personal expericences I know what it can do to people... It's wrong and I wish people who would hurt kids wouldn't have them or even be around them. Of course though the world can't be perfect... @LongAndRandomUser: Kind of offended by what you said. Someone who brags about that obviously have some kind of problem and needs help or is lying to get attention. Even hitting a kid for something wrong they did isn't the right way to do things either. There are so many better forms of punishment that doesn't leave psychology issues.
Those are both, without a doubt, correct... Most of the time, I would believe that the person/people that I know who say they got beat by their parents and brag to everyone about are lying... It isn't normal to run up to someone and "show-off" your own despair...
Two things: 1) Sometimes the percieved "bragging" is actually a coping mechanism, like when you are hurt and try to brave it out. It could also be a cry for help but the victim doesn't want to be viewed as being weak. 2) In all honesty, when I was a little kid, if I did something wrong I got a slap around the back of the legs or whatever, yeah I resented it at the time but I learnt not to do whatever I'd done wrong again. I don't see a problem with it. It is when it goes into extremes and becomes a regular occurence for no reason other than violence or venting frustration that it crosses the line into abuse.
I think some form of mild physical punishment is good for kids. My mother brought the belt on me when I was little. A little harsh, yes, but it taught me a lesson. Then there are others, like my mom has a mild pscyhological disorder and sometimes, she can't deal with certain situations. Like I remember in fourth grade, asking her for that special Gameboy color with the Pikachu on it. She kept telling me not to take it to school and I did. It got stolen. When I told my mom, she got really angry because we were poor and I was always asking for toys and it wasn't even the first Gameboy I lost. So she grabbed me by my hair and pulled. I still think of that as abuse, but I don't blame her. She has trouble handling some situations. When my sister was little, her baby sitter spanked her and she behaved. When she stopped being babysat and misbehaved, I would spank her. My mom told me to stop and said I shouldn't hit her. My sister is now the most spoiled little girl I've ever met. But when a child is an infant, prolonged physical punishment doesn't work because of the way their minds are set up. If you give them a long spanking session, by the end of it they won't even remember why they were spanked. Moral of the post: Mild physical punishment (spankings, etc) may end up necessary. Now there's the actual abuse. Pushing kids around, hitting them hard, actually leaving marks, breaking bones, etc. You have to remember that these people aren't in the state of mind you are. Like Cyanide says, they lack empathy.
