Changing

(God forbid I have to do this again)

So, let's start from the beginning. That's always a good place to start. Everything seems less confusing.

Alrighty, so my girlfriend says to me (a few months ago) "You've changed." I take no notice of it. I laught it off and say "What are you on about?"

A few days ago she says the same thing. Maybe she's imagining things, right? Well that's what I thought. She says that I've become more opinionated, and that I won't let anyone have an opinion unless it's the same as mine. She says that I've become more like my friends than myself. I laugh and then ask her what she means. She just says to me that I'm not the same guy she fell in love with two years ago. Now I'm starting to think, you know, maybe she's right? Maybe I have changed, but I can't see where, if at all. So she has to be imagining things. But I've been thinking some more about it, (I've been doing that a lot lately) what if she is right?

So khv, this is why I come to you (for help). Is there any way to tell if I have changed lately? If so, should I stay the way I am now, even if she doesn't like it, or should I try to go back to the way I was before? I don't know what to do.

 

Hmmm, thats a toughie.

If you have been going out for 2 years, she should've learnt to respect you for who you are, after all "to be resistent to change is to be resistant to life"

hehehe ^_^'

With you being more like your friends, maybe you just hang around with them a lot, and you take on this 'role' thats a lot like them, just a hunch. For a girlfriend to say to you about your opinionated-ness, well, she knows you, and she's noticed some changes, nothing to serious

basically, if she feels like, super strongly about this, then maybe you should change a little bit, but if its not really anything too bad, then go with the flow. Whatever you can do to float your boat...and hers

Good luck =)

 

Well, she says you've changed due to the amount of time you have been sharing with your friends.

Maybe...spend less time with them and more with your girl? Find another group of friends?


I don't really know you dude, so I can't really say....



Edit - ...wut

 

Just thought I'd point out that you say that she says you've changed and that you won't let anyone else have an opinion that differs from your own. And then you say she must be imagining stuff for saying that. But aren't you doing exactly what she's accusing you off? blowing her opinion off because you don't agree? (well up until you made this thread).

Anyways, change can be for the better or worse. What's really important is that you're comfortable with who you are, and can stand living with who you've become, if you have in fact changed.