Can three people be together?

Like, three guys, two guys and a girl, one guy and two girls, or three girls together...and possibly get married together. My question is much to what I need to know, and to see whether it's frowned upon in this forum, or anyone in today's society. Can three people, of any gender, be together at all?

 

It is physically possible. 3,4,.. , etc. The right question is if it would work out or if it's right?

 

Exactly as I'm trying to say it: Is it right, would it work out, and, can it be romantically? Now, I'm not trying to make people be infuriated with this sort of question, but, I just need to at least know.

 

I don't know, it depends on whether it is for fun or not. Like if its just three people messing around then it could work, but three people in a relationship I would disagree with. You're likely to end up with resentment and insecurity, arguments about why there needs to be the third person etc.

Of course it depends on the mentality of the people involved, I guess it could be successful but I personally would be against it. I wouldn't want to be in a three person relationship.

 

Well, there is a reason for calling them "couples".

 

I see. So, it depends on the three's mentality, as well as if the three just want to be together, not just being together for the heck of it huh?

 

I wouldn't advise against it per se, but I will say it is unlikely to work except in very exceptional cases or cultures. The one-on-one concept has been heavily ingrained in people's heads, and there are many difficulties with more than two in a relationship: Besides an ethical aversion to it, many people are not prepared for the demands of a relationship of that nature. The important thing is to lay the ground rules and try to ensure that each partner feels loved and respected in the relationship. There's enough difficulty in getting two people to agree on conduct; introducing more makes it even more complicated, but in principle alone it could definitely work.

 

Yes, like whether or not the three could handle the pressure that would come from being in a relationship. Or even if they would be happy sharing someone they loved with someone else, if you couldn't accept that then a relationship would be a bad idea.

A lot of couples will sometimes introduce the idea of a third person as a way to cause excitement and fun, and it has damaged relationships before because of jealousy and insecurity that happened as a result.

However I've never really come across three people that started out with the intention of being in a three way relationship.

 

So, what you're saying is that it can/could work in a certain type of way, but not in today's society because of the one-to-one ratio of relationships?

Ah. That does make sense. But, there was also one thing I forgot to add.... Do/would/will people become angry as to such a sort of relationship, or disappointed, or something entirely mixed of emotions, to these three people being together?

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Gentlemen's_Alliance_Cross look guys read it all it is possible!

 

I'm saying that the one-on-one stigma is one major roadblock to making such a relationship function, as it goes against something people have known from birth. It's not even active discrimination, it's just automatic; most people don't even consider other options. (States may not have plans for a marriage of that sort, for example.) That will affect the outside perception of the relationship, but that's not a concern so much as how the people in the relationship see it; it's not hard to imagine one of the partners starting to feel like a third wheel, and even if he/she is just imagining it, it can put a strain on things.

My point is that you have to know what's involved in this kind of relationship and guard against bad blood between any of the partners. Keep communications open, between EVERYONE; make sure none of them feel left out. As for public opinion, well... Three people that want to enter into a relationship like this should confide in each other enough that it shouldn't matter if the whole world hates them for it.

 

True enough. And that's what I wanted to hear from someone specifically in this thread actually. But, I'll listen to other opinions as well.

 

Ah menage a trois~

I knew a girl who dated a guy and a girl at the same time, they all knew on it, but the other guy and girl didn't have anything going on, nor did they care.
The girl honestly really cared for both of them, but it was more of a fun thing.

There's a whole debate on it. I mean, is the love shared? is it doubled? It gets complicated.

Three people together can work. Just don't get your hopes up.

 

Well of course there will be people who will frown down on it, or speak negatively about it, but at the end of the day there are people who will speak bad about ANY relationship. As long as the people involved are happy with it then what outsiders say shouldn't have an influence on that.

You shouldn't be with someone to make other people happy, nor should you NOT be with someone for the sole reason of pleasing others. In my view anyway.

 

You both are true on your part, and that's all right, truth's good to listen about. Still, if the relationship of the three do work out, then there's no reason that people should care what other people say about them, should they?

 

But they will care.

Happiness of others isn't always accepted if it goes against one's morals or beliefs or even just a preference.

See: Gay marriage.

I'll agree by saying that monogamy seems to be a hopeful wish. Not everyone has that perfect someone, sometimes feelings lead someone to more than one person, etc.

But personally, I believe a relationship should between two people.

But if it works out, more power to you.

 

Yes. More power to the people in the relationship, or the one person who started, or who started, rather than the people not a part of it.

 

Saying that you can't love two different people at the same time is like saying you can't love both your father and mother, or your brothers and sisters.

Love is not something that can be measured purely by imperical evdience, overt and covert observation, psychological evaluation, chemical activity, etc. There is so much more we don't understand about the concept of love and that's the whole point in it.

I wouldn't look down on such a relationship as long as everyone in the relationship is on good terms with each other and reletavily happy. Like any relationship.
It could be great, three incomes for one household in theory should make quality of livng much better.

I've never seen one myself but in theory it shouldn't be a great deal different from experiences you've had in the past.

 

Huh...all right, that is the third best thing I've heard from most of the responses actually.

 

Agreed. There's also a reason why there's such thing as "a third wheel."

I'm pretty skeptical in how this could work out to be honest. Prioritizing would be really hard, getting everyone to like one another would be really hard, etc.