**Boy Problems**

I have mentioned a few times in the Spamzone about me going to a Christian School.

Anyway, there is this boy in my class, named Gavin. He is what many would call the "class clown."

I honestly think he has a crush on me, because every day he tries to get my attention.

One day, in gym, these boys were pegging me with dodgeballs as a game. I just wanted to be alone(I am usually a lone wolf), but they continued to peg me. Finally, they stopped, and I began to cry, I know it's stupid and immature, but....

And when they stopped, Gavin held out his hand and helped me up, and offered a tissue to wipe my tears. There is a concession stand in my gym, so he bought me a powerade. I told him he didn't have to do that, he just said

"Unlike Public School, there are people that actually care about you in Private School."
At lunch, he offered me to sit at the table with him and his football player friends, and he even bought me lunch.

He's been continously trying to get my attention, making me wonder if he likes me. I think he is cute and all, but I am not sure if I like him like THAT.

The other day, he tried to ask me out, but class started before he had the chance to. If he DOES work up the never to ask me out again, what should I say? I have never had a boyfriend before, but he is really nice to me and he is AWFULLY cute, but I don't really like him any more than a friend.

What do I do?

 

I say go for it. He obviously cares about you and it can't hurt to get some experience in the dating world.

 

He seems to have some character to him, but exactly how well do you know this guy? The only detail you gave of him was that he was the 'class clown' and that he's constantly trying to get your attention; class clowns tend to try to get everyone's attention. It strikes me just a bit odd that he's focusing a bit more on yours in such a manner. As for whether or not you like him 'that' way, if you're not sure, I suggest you try getting to know him better, first, before you agree to any dates with him, if any.

How old are you/is he?

 

Well that was just mean.

Anyway other than that biased comment about public schooling I'd say he's a good guy. If he asks you out I say go ahead and give him a chance.

 

give the dude a chance if he has the guts to go through l that jsut to get ur attention give the dude a chance and sometimes class clowns dont jsut focus on getting everyones atention somtimes they may seem to try to get everyones attention but that jsut shows how hard they are tryin to get ur atention ha trust me I should know Iv been class clown for a long time

 

Reject his ass, cruel as it may sound. Love hardly ever comes with a delay. If it doesn't feel right for you now, I don't think it will once you two do hook up. You'll end up feeling bad, and worse even when someone enters your life that you do like as more than a friend. Either way, the odds of this working out are against you. Best to get this over with now and not getting his hopes up. He deserves better than that.

 

Give him a chance. He really seems to care about you, and seems nice.

 

He seems to really like you alot. Why don't you just start trying to make out your feelings for him too and when he asks again you could either say yes or say that you haven't worked out your feelings for him yet if you haven't already. Or no if you have and you don't love him back.

 

Kind of regretfully, I agree with Styx. I wish it was some other way for me, but thats how I feel. If it doesnt feel right to you right now, for me at least, it never will. I unforunatley "dating" this guy for two days because he was really sweet and as soon as I said yes to a date it went down hill from there and two days later I went what am I doing I dont like him and I told him that. The fast you tell him no, the faster he can get over it.
Thats my opinion.

 

Guy here.
Sounds like he does indeed like you.
However, the whole pegging thing is a high sign of immaturity. How old is he?

 

I say why not?? Give him a chance, that is if you like/know him. If your willing to make a commitnent than go for It. :)

 

I'll go with Styx and Rosey (aside from the reject his ass xD)

I'm not completely certain that you should right out reject him or accept, either. You may not understand your feelings for this person. Sure, now you're saying he may be just friends, but maybe you will find some attraction in the future.

If you still don't, given the time and all, then certainly reject him. You shouldn't force yourself into something you don't want. I partly agree with Styx, as long as you give things time.

 

If he cares about you that much, give the guy a chance... I am always getting stabbed in the back by girls... yeah it sucks..But you have something going on! Give him a chance and see what he is like.

 

Umm dude, she doesn't have to entirely do that.


What you can do is at least get to know him a little bit more don't you think? Because it seems too fast in my opinion. What you can do is get to know him better, become friends and see what is he REALLY like. Because let me tell you, if you say yes without knowing him at all chances can be that he is a jerk in disguise. Girls tend to make this mistake but try to not do that okay?


In other words

- Get to know him
- Become friends
-Give him a chance maybe? you can't just expect to know this kid in a mere few days and quickly say " oh no I don't like him bla bla" without even knowing him that well, who knows? maybe if you do get to meet a little deeper and go out together with your friends or even alone, something inside you might light up. If it doesn't well, forget about it and tell him you're not interested.

:) good luck.

 

Try it. It's yer first. You're not getting married. Live a little(:

 

Agreed .

 

Wrong order of action there.

I'll tell you what: why doesn't she first invent a vaccin for heartache and then carry out that plan of yours that is little more than gambling with love while getting his hopes up. "Something might light up"? I'm afraid this isn't a poker tournament.

Secondly, becoming friends with someone you know is interested in a relationship sounds easier than it actually is. You have to carefully weigh your words, not to mention your compliments, in order not to give a wrong impression. From what I read you've never been in a similar situation, or you'd know how weird it feels.

No, these situations need to be dealt with while they're fresh. Only then will you minimize disappointment in either of the two.
Tell him where you stand at the first chance you get. Then try to become friends. Then see what happens, but don't expect too much.

I wouldn't object to that were it not that chivalrous class clowns are generally the ones whose hearts are most easily stomped on. Like I said; he deserves better than that.
Plus, "living a little" in this case includes hooking up with some bloke you don't really like in a romantic way. It's more likely to feel awkward than good.

 

Kannira just go for it if your not sure. Give it a try and if it doesn't work out then by listening to what you said about him, he will remain your friend if you just want to be friends. a dude like that is one of a kind by just listening to what you've said.

 

Please don't do this, Kannira. Speaking as someone who's been in that guy's position time and time again, I can say without a doubt that if he's worth his salt as a man he'll prefer that you give him a chance and end up breaking up with him later than reject him outright now. Love isn't about what "just clicks" right off the bat; it's about persistence and fighting through those times when you don't feel quite as strongly about someone. Regardless, you don't even need to worry about that right now, and neither does he. What you need to do is set the parameters; you're probably not ready for something really serious, so tell him that right up front. If he wants something serious, then from there it's his choice to either reconsider going out with you or stay the course and just know it won't be exactly what he wants. There's nothing wrong with it, and it's not your fault if even after a while you just don't feel a thing for him. You ought to at least give it a shot. Worst-case scenario, you break up with him and he cries his eyes out, but he'll get over it and you'll both be richer for the experience.

If you would rather get to know him better before you take it a step further, like some people have advised, more power to ya; just don't get into that "friendzone" mindset where you're afraid to date him because you think you'll just end up hurting him. That's bull crap. If a guy is interested in you and you turn him down, it hurts just as much. It's just a question of which pain you can live with inflicting. The only way you can totally prevent that risk of hurting a guy is to just not associate with him at all, and even then you might end up putting him in khfreak123's situation. People are sensitive; there's a lot of ways you can hurt total strangers without even realizing it. In the end it's pretty much all dependent on whether you're ready to try a relationship or not, but if you are, don't reject a guy like that. At least be able to say you gave it a shot; if you hurt him after that point, eh... Sh*t happens.

 

Well said but don't you think that there should be some love first before fighting through hardship to keep it? Your statement makes sense for couples who are going through hard times, but I dare say it's not applicable when the romance and love are one-sided to begin with.

Love can "grow" into someone but it seldom does after a certain time. While I'm open to the possibility that it exists I've never seen or heard of such a case in my own environment. It's best not to take those chances.

Actually, that's the same thing I said a few posts above yours. You might wanted to have read that. But the thing is; he is hoping for something serious, for some form of romance, more so than she is at least. In that case telling it like it is still a form of rejection, whether you call it by its name or call it "setting the parameters". Besides, she didn't say she isn't ready, she said she's not interested. You might as well be honest when it comes down to the same thing.
We agree on sending out a signal towards him early on rather than acting oblivious while getting to know him better, for obvious reasons. Our approaches don't differ all that much.