Idk what to say. Lately i've been pissing alot of people off. Been annoying them, been isolating myself from my family. I feel as though my personality may slowly be changing to a colder, darker, more angry person, and that thought terrifies me. What i want to know is this; is there any way for me to change my personality? Or am i doomed to be an ******* my whole life?
If you feel you are becoming nasty, start being nicer You know, hold doors open for people, all that nice dude stuff. That, or watch funny TV shows. (Drake and Josh come to mind. It's nice to just get your mind off reality and laugh.)
Don't worry, I can tell you that I was growing up to be a nasty horrible person a few years ago, but the difference was that I didn't care, it depressed me horrible though and so that was when I changed. I was upset because I was horrible and I was horrible because I was upset so I managed to break out of that cycle and I became a much better person. It's the same for you. Start off with doing small things, like as Tiger said, holding the door open or making one of your parents a drink so they don't have to get up- this sort of thing. The good thing is you have the motive to change at the moment which is exactly what you will need through this change. Watching comedies and doing things that make you happy will definitely help as well. Maybe also start apologising, I don't know exactly what you may have done but just say sorry to them.
Anyway I suggest what Rat said leave door's open for people, don't shut yourself off from people, open up to them it might help. Talk to somebody you trust? If you feel like you're getting angry, scream into a pillow, write letters that you don't send to calm yourself or distract yourself. Like Ienzo said, maybe you could start apologising if you feel like you've done something. Sorry I couldn't be much help.
This. And awesome show. But my best advice is try your best to be more of a gentlemen. Just do whatever it takes. People will start noticing right away.
Well, sometimes you just become a pain to live with... Everyone has a time where they are b***es. It's good that you are noticing it yourself, that means you are willing to change your behaviour. Maybe you might try to be more active towards your family and friends. Start with asking how their day was, for example. Or talk about the weater. A movie or book, or music. It doesn't need to be a life-changing way of starting convesations as long as you actually start one. Also, don't be afraid of yourself. If you get afraid you'll get angsty you'll get depressed and you spiral down untill there's nothing left of you. Taking the first step towards a change is the hardest part, after that it'll only get better.
Thank you all of you. I'm paying attention to what you're saying, and i'm going to work on it..i guess it was a good idea to post this thread then.
My advice is maybe your not becoming a meaner person maybe your just thinking differently. And thats isolating you cos you people you socialise with don't get that and thus are arguing with you... Remember it takes two to argue hun
we grow through our interactions with different types of people, through the things we see and experience. If you want to grow, do something different with your life. Learn a musical intrument, or to cook, do new and different activities. The hormones of teenage years are indeed a pain till you can cope with them, and I've done better by simply being around people who can make me happy and smile, which in turn makes me want to be nicer. Try and work on something you care about or are passionate about.
my advice is to act nicer, even if it's just an act. eventually, if you keep doing it it will become a little more genuine and the fact that you recognize this problem and want to change makes me think you will succeed eventually. just remember to be patient with yourself, personality changes don't happen very quickly. i might be wrong about this, but i also suggest not spending too much time on the internet because i found that's where most of the cynical people seem to be.
I have to agree with what everyone else has said -- be patient. Anyway, you're 18, correct? Well, you may have passed the major part of puberty, but I believe that, for a while there, when still in the young ages (18-21-ish), some people will still have some hormone effects, which mood swings is one of them. This is just my opinion, though, so don't take my word for it.
