After discovering my friends didn't like me anymore...

I planned to confront them at lunch tomorrow and tell them off.

What should I say? How should I act?

I'm nice by nature, so teach me how not be nice when talking to them KHV.

 

I really don't have any [good] experience when it comes to something like this, but speak your mind. Anything you want to get off your chest about them, just say it (within reason of course).

I might not have the best advice about this, but you just do what you've gotta do.

 

Thank me.

I'll be sure to get more experience and pass it on to you~

 

edit: Or tell them they suck as people.

*rolls d20* How much XP did I get?

 

Or you could, you know, not stoop down to their level.

 

Did I say I was going to insult them? No. I was going to only talk, but I didn't want to seem overly-nice.

It's the reason people don't take me seriously at all. I'm usually to nice to be intimidating or anything. This is why I am asking advice.

 

Maybe you should remember how things played out when I spoke to you about your problem with me.

 

*sigh*... You seem to be a nice person. Too bad I can't help you that much because I never had a lot of friends. :( I would just act like I don't care, but I'm not asking you to do it. Just be yourself, do your own thing. P.S. I feel bad for you... Do have a real friend who always liked you and who you can trust?

 

There's a difference between saying, "You are all ****ing horrible people," and saying, "It's pretty clear that you guys don't like me anymore, so let's stop being friends."

 

I agree.

 

You should ask them for a reason why they don't like you.
What have you done? Is there something you could have done differently?
You honestly don't even need to act different. Just speak as yourself and be the good person you are. =)

 

i remember my friends started a pregnancy pact without me and i was upset and i had no idea how to confront them.

 

If you don't want to be nice do what you do on here like when you try to be a smart ass over the little things and can't understand basic concepts of anything at all

I'm being very serious because you seem to have a different persona about you on here. That I'm a nice guy thing I'm not seeing it at all. Alright no if you really want to be as assertive as possible then act like you're in the spamzone and just use.... No that's not it

Ok why not just be nice and then just leave those so called friends as you put it. Why change if you know that's not who you are. If you're kind alright stay kind say your last words and leave. There's no major tactic for this unless you just play it cool and just do what you do. Nice guy... Y-Yea nice guy forget those chumps and keep moving forward

 

I know how tough it is, the need to belong in some form of social group-but if you are certainly sure that they don't like you, why confront them at all? Sure you can be like, "I can tell you don't like me so I'm just gonna leave" but that could backfire because it could sound like you're an attention seeker asking them for comfort, and if you're going for assertiveness, that's not the way to go IMO

Just ignore them completely and do your own thing. Sit with another bunch of people or something (In 10th grade I went through about 7 different groups. All through high school I probably came close to 20). Usually people will let you sit with them for a while just until you get your head together. When you start ignoring your old group, they'll either shrug it off or ask you whats up-to which you will reply with "You guys got boring" or "I'm exploring my options" or "My standards are higher now". That's if you actually want to get rid of them completely. If not, then say something like "I tried to fit in but it wasn't working, so I'm gonna stay by myself for a while."

You'd be surprised, most kids your age don't even care about friendship stuff anymore. It's not about treating someone right, its just having someone to sit with at lunch.

But honestly, I wouldn't even confront them. Just leave and let them work it out themselves. If they don't like you, they're not even worth the effort to tell them off about it.

 

You could just not give a fuck and let it go? If your pansy friends decided on a whim that they don't like you anymore, what use is you making the effort to tell them off, they wont give a shit. You clearly mean very little to them if they made such a snap decision, and your voice wont make for anything but a mocking point at a later date, go find new friends.

 

"Hey, yeah, you're all ****."

 

Pretty much. If they're going to go ahead and do this to you on such (seemingly) meager reasoning, they're not worth your time and effort.

Sorry, but you shouldn't have to deal with this kind of stuff from people you call "friends." I've seen it happen too often to some of my own friends, who got out of groups that didn't really value them.

 

I did something like that with a friend of mine. If I marry a woman who can't bear children, my best friend will be our surrogate.