Advice please?

Discussion in 'Help with Life' started by Nova, Apr 26, 2010.

  1. Nova We left a scar size extra-large.

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    About... 7 months ago... I think. Roughly. I had a boyfriend that cheated on me. ALOT. It really hurt me, and since then I've been pretty scarred. Right now my new boyfriend(fiance actually[been dating 6 months]), has been hanging out with ALOT of girls, and I know he would never cheat on me, but it bothers me a little bit, and I don't want to sound like a jealous bitch by telling him it upsets me, but it does, mostly because we hardly get to hang out at the moment. Am I being a jealous bitch? I keep trying to force myself to chill out, but I can't. What do you think I should do about myself? I don't blame anything on him, and I'm really not upset with him. I think. I'm not sure. Help me please :[
     
  2. Catch the Rain As the world falls down ♥

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    If you love him enough to be engaged then you have to give him trust you know?

    I know it is really hard when you have been hurt by exes, trust me, been there, but you can't let it restrict you to the point where you become like this. However if you don't talk to him about it then it will build up and explode out and that is not a good idea, you're likely to end up pushing him away that way.

    I would suggest talking to him; not yelling at him about other girls, but just talk with him about maybe the two of you spending some more time together.

    I think you need to be grown up and accept that he has other friends too, afterall, you're the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with <3
     
  3. Kubo Kingdom Keeper

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    It's no big deal if you tell him it bothers you :D It's normal what you're feeling anyways. Just let him know and talk about it.
     
  4. MandyXRiku4ever Twilight Town Denizen

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    You should chill out. Seriously. heres the thing, guys are pretty predictable.
    if he's showing the signs of a bum then leave him. but if you guys are engage, try NOT to think about it. Get yourself occupied and try to forget this feeling. this feeling is just anxiety.

    do the things that are comforting yet occupied but don't get you to suck in.
    Like?
    *Read a book.
    and talk to him. (don't accuse) just tell him you need to be assured. Tell him what you told us how scared you are. Who knows? he could be just as scared. Just try talking calming explaining a fear that's never gonna happen if he loves you.

    Good luck!
     
  5. nasirrich King's Apprentice

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    Well maybe

    You are just still bumbed about wat has happened to you in the past. Its ok to feel this way. I mean if you two may get married then he has to no that wat ever it is that might make you jelous then he should stop it A.S.A.P.Also the fact that your saying your not mad at him to means that you may not trusts him. Cause I've heard that like a million times wen people say I'm not mad at him/her. Its fine I know that they wouldn't do that. I really trust them. But the truth you may not trusts them as much as you think. And your letting your past mess with your head. So you got to take it easy. Don't force it cause then if something pops off then you that clam feeling that you want to have.And also you really have got to talk to him about the fact tat he chills with girls a lot.If he really loves you then he really shouldn't have any if, an's, or buts about it.And if he does then leave his sorry ass.Putting yourself through that again. Please that isn't worth your time