Seriously big long explanation here. Okay, I've a boy problem. An annoying, pull-my-hair-out boy problem. See, about May time this year, a boy from my class who I'm brilliant friends with asked me out. I didn't feel ready to date then, and I got so scared I said no. But these past few weeks I've started to actually harbour feelings for him, so I confided in my friend. She subtly let him know, and last Tuesday I got a text from him that ended with 'Oh, and could you meet me outside form tomorrow? I've to talk to you! (:' This is where the problem starts. Wednesday morning, I was really nervous, but I had no idea why he wanted to talk to me (I'm ridiculously naive when it comes to relationships - I've never had one before) and at the end of form, my tutor asked me to put the laptops back in the cupboard. When I came out my form block, I couldn't see him anywhere, and figured that he'd just thought 'Oh, she's put the laptops away, no point in talking now, I'll see her at break.' He'd turned up fifteen minutes late to class because he'd been waiting for me to turn up. Wednesday dinner came around, and I was going to ask him what he wanted to talk about, but there was never a moment I could ask him where it would be private. Thursday, I didn't ask him either. FRIDAY, I took the advice of one friend. Result = disaster. I can't even describe how embarrassing it was when I tried to subtly make him realise I liked him. Yesterday, we all went out to celebrate a joint birthday (Mine and my best friends 16th) and there was a really weird air around us, something akin to pity on both our parts. My friend told me that on the Wednesday morning, when I couldn't find him, he was going to ask me out and since I didn't turn up, he's been really put down. I sent him a message when I got home saying I needed to talk to him on Monday outside form, but I've got no reply. My question's are this; A) has he not replied yet because he just doesn't want to talk to me after Wednesday? B) If he doesn't reply, should I pull him aside after form anyway? C) Should I explain that there's a misunderstanding (despite me having left it too long for it to be a misunderstanding) about Wednesday morning? D) He knows I like him, but he's never actually heard it from me. If I let him know, from me, face to face, will he realise I'm not just playing him around? Finally, should I even talk to him about it at all, or just leave it all? I've already let two chances pass me by, do I even deserve a third?
Realationships are always hard. If you like really like him then you should probably just say to him face to face (I cant talk...I asked my Boyfriend out over MSN ) if he likes you back,then he'll understand that you ..were confused. I hope everything goes ok for you ^^ Though Im not the best person to answer this lol,I have guy problems of my own - seriously...who came up with them? anyways good luck! hope all goes well for you ^^ :D
If you care for him don't give up. Keep trying. If he still likes you he'll say so. Relatstionships are difficult but boiled down they are basic, show interest, maintian the interest, then you'll be together. Good luck with whatever you do.
The most effective way is to go to him personally and say that you need to have a talk. Text messages are not that good because you can interpret text in the wrong way far too easily. It also feels somewhat distant. To me, this all seems like an unfortunate misunderstanding. You took something wrong, he took something wrong, and it led to this. Don't worry, though, it seems to have been just a silly incident which can be explained somewhat painlessly.
