About to go Final Form on someone's arse.

My girlfriend and I have a big problem.
2 of her friends are like, head-over-heels in love with her, and she wants nothing of it.
Its beginning to cause much tension, because the guy Brandon wants me gone.
And the girl, yeah, she's bi, Courtney, lets Izzy come over to her ohouse, but says I cant come over anymore because her mom "doesn't like me".
Izzy called Courtney's mom one day, and found out she really does like having me around.
So, I'm angry at Courtney, and tension is building on mine and Brandon's already strained friendship.
Help. o_o

 

Wow. That's quite a sticky situation you got thar. o.O

Methinks your girlfriend should tell her two friends that she's not interested in them in that way. Perhaps then they'll leave you and her alone.

 

Well, I'd say just talk to them. All four of you should get together and tell them what the problems are. I know, it's easier said than done, but if you can do that it should help things move in the right direction. I agree that you should tell your girlfriend to clear things up with her friends.

 

It's harder than that.
Neither of them know Izzy and me know, so they'll be hurt.

You have a point, but it's going to be difficult.
Maybe I'll have like, a friend talk to them about it?

 

I that courtney is saying you cant go over is because of her friends and she knows THEY don't like you and it embarrases her.

 

I'll give you some advice.Go right up to the two of them and just say right into there face "I'm with her not you two.She doesn't like you that way back and to brode of something like this is just obsession.No matter how many sick twisted scenarios that you have in your head that i get dumped or we breakup, get them out of your head because even if it did happen the chance are she still wouldn't go out with either of you because she doesn't like you the way you like her so get over yourselves!!".

Perfect speech.

 

Sure it is......If you want to end on people's bad side.

*glares at Daxma* A bit on the gloomy-intellectual side of life are we?


Back on Topic:

This will either way or another hurt....the diffirence is how much.

If you want them as friends or just don't want to start trouble, just confront each one personally(you and your gf or your gf alone)and possibly somewhere where they don't feel pressured(not infront of people)

And talk about the Issues at hand....once you do , if you still are friends it might get a bit uncomfortable for a little while, but youll be in a much more honest relationship with your friends, one that is much less tense.

as for the girls staying at their house....I wouldn't want to see a couple being with each other after I invite one of my friends to my house so he/she could spend time hanging out with me, so I think this is similar.


As for brandon , try and know him better understand him, present yourself a friend and when you think the time is right.....just ask him about his feelings, in a non-tense and relaxed envoirment.


This is all my opinion so....take it as you will.

 

Okaii, many suggestions.
I'm considering just confronting them individually, but idk.
I'll take care of it after winter break.
Thanks so much for the help. :]

 

I would try talking to your girlfriend mainly through this and find out what she and you want. If you both decide ultimately that you want to be together and to continue going out, you both need some teamwork to deal with this problem at hand.

I would first say that Courtney - who likes your girlfriend sexually - may be prone to tell some tall tales to get you out of a relationship with Izzy. Now, if your girlfriend knows that Courtney is doing this crap to include calling your gf's mother, she should put her foot down and tell Courtney that she is not going to be friends with her if she can't get her mind out of 'liking' her. She needs to tell Courtney that she has no romantic interest in her at all and she is going out with you. If she needs some back up, you should go with her when she talks to Courtney and express that this is how it goes, but let your girl talk more because this is -her- issue and she has to come clean with her intentions. If that other girl doesn't back off, she has issues and your gf may have to make the decision of not wanting to hang around Courtney so much until she gets her head straight and accepts that you are her boyfriend and that's just how it is.

As for Brandon, the same thing may have to happen that your gf with your support goes and tells Brandon straight up that she has no interest in him as a bf and she is happy with you and that you both are not going to break up over this. Brandon then should have the choice known to him as well that if he cannot be a 'friend' to you or her, he needs to step off and have a nice life.

Basically, by talking this out and all, you make both of your positions clear and in the end, these people wouldn't like your gf so much if she'd just tell them to back off herself and make her feelings known. She may need your love and support but in the end, they aren't going to listen to you since they like -her-. If you go as support or support her from the sidelines it will help but she has to get brave and do this. So talking to her sincerely and asking her for some sort of plan of action on getting them to understand seems more critical than going and confronting either of these 2 by yourself. They are envious of you and in the end, to understand their position because she's not making herself clear or putting some ultimatums down, they think they stand a chance at getting with her. She's got to make herself clear to all 3 of you on what she wants. So encourage her to do that and well, get to know what's in her heart too. I wish you luck with this problem.

 

Wow, that's alot to read. o_o
But it does help...
I'm going with this plan, as it makes a ton of sense.
Thanks for the help. :]

 

Just forget this thread ever happened.

Izzy was cheating on me with Brandon.

=/

 

>.< Do this..sent photoshop photos of him to EVERYONE in a compermising postion..XD

Im really sorry to hear that though..that sucks

 

Meh, sorry to hear that. :/ It sucks that sometimes people do this. I guess at least now you know. Cheaters get what's coming to them in the end and maybe she'll learn when it happens to her. Hang in there, man.