Hiho, I'm 16 yrs old, and I got a very common problem that lots of teenagers have. Well... basically the thing goes like this: I met a girl some months ago and we started to hang out, with the time we became REALLY good friends ( actually she's my best friend and viceversa ) the problem is... well, 2 months ago or so I started to like her, and I mean I really like her, but I'm afraid she sees me as a brother or as another friend, actually, one day when we were messing around she told me something like: "haha i wouldn't be your girlfriend you silly" and I really got upset since then. I don't know what to do, I like her a lot and I keep thinking her answer will be negative, in that case I'm afraid that if I tell her the truth our relation will change in a bad way. I'm really confused right now :( I need some help guys =/
ehh im in the same boat as you but it happens and always trust your instinct if you think it will be bad chances are it will be. you know for a straight guy im extremely feminine so a lot of people say im in the "friend zone" which means i will always be not much more then a friend but if your relationship is good stay with it. long story short just stay as you are if you dont want to risk your relationship.
Try setting it up in a romantic way. Give it a good go with some sort of speech, expressing your feelings by saying how much you would rather be with her than do anything else at this point, etc. (doesn't have to be that, but if you're extreme about it, she might change her mind about you just being a brother-type friend). I had a similar situation but I never resolved my feelings. But it isn't a big deal anymore because I'm with someone else now.
Same, a straight and feminine to other people :( Anyways, try asking her as a joke to see what she would say.
You cannot have her. =( It's painful yes, but you need to let go of it, because all you can get is trouble. So I think that you should not tell her about it. Tell no one. Then again, if you do not like her as a friend anymore, one would think that it's 'give or take'. If you like risks, then tell her. Otherwise I do not suggest by any means. Wolfie, I proved you guys wrong ;)
She rejected you beforehand. That should be your cue to let it die. If you noticed that, surely you noticed that physical attraction is nowhere mentioned in his opening post as well. And leave the discussion to the thread at hand next time.
Ah yes, I know how this problem goes. I know, its the worst feeling ever, well close to it anyways. I had a similar thing happen to me a while back. These things take a lot of time to get over depending on who you are. A suggestion would be to tell her what you feel and wait for a reaction. If you're afraid of losing her as a friend, I wouldn't suggest doing that. What I did was just waited things out, I kept my mouth shut and just went with the flow. But, if I were you I'd talk to her about how you feel. If you have any questions, PM me :).
Deep breaths have a serious conversation about it when you feel ready and see what she says...Thats the only way I can help you if I know her siode of the story.
Ye.. it's so confusing and painful xD I told her I wanted to talk about something and she realized I wanted to talk about that... her reaction was like... in a joking mode Idk what's going to happen next =/ so thanks a lot guys
Translation English - Girlish: It's good the way it is. Don't kill what we have. Please don't. I don't want to have to get all serious and reject you. Keep this in mind as a general rule of thumb. When a girl wants to bend the subject and joke about it, she feels uncomfortable and insecure about what's to come, unless she's excessively flirty. Ask yourself whether you think she was flirting with you before you decide to push this further. I take it you don't want ro ruin a solid friendship.
