Yeah. I feel as if I need to get his off my chest before I end up releasing my anger on my family or possibly anybody else. So, today I had already felt like crap since the beginning since I'm a little sick right now. When I entered high school I had met quite a few people. I met someone I'm really close to now but, that has changed. My respect for her has gone down. I've known her for almost 4 years. Long time. For her, I'll give her the nickname Jenny. But, I've known someone else for possibly more than 10 years. I'm close to her as well. And for her, I'll give her the nickname Kelly. For the both of them, my respect has gone way down. During lunch, we were being our usual selves. But, another friend's boyfriend comes up to us and well, Jenny, Kelly and my friend's boyfriend were talking about something I have no idea what it was. Until, I started hearing, "We have a lighter. We can go by the basketball courts. Nobody will see us." I began to get suspicious and so I asked Jenny what was going on. She wouldn't tell me. Then, this other kid that was with my friend's boyfriend said, "We have 20 minutes left. We'll have enough time." I raised an eyebrow and looked at everyone that was talking to them. I shrugged and just leaned against the lockers. I figured it could just be something between them so I didn't really care. Until I heard another friend ask, "You guys have a pipe?" I immediately knew what it was. And this is our little conversation as they started walking towards the basketball courts. Me: What the hell! Are you stupid or something? Why are you going to do this? I don't want to be around a bunch of potheads.(Sorry if that even offended anybody. I was just pissed off, okay?) Jenny: You don't have to do it. Me: Who the **** said I wanted to do it? Dude, I'm ****ing allergic to this kind of ****. It can kill me. Jenny: Then I don't know. Don't be around us then. Me: What the ****? You guys didn't bother telling me this. Obviously, I was pissed off. And, it's not like I would've done it if they told me. Like I had told Jenny, I'm highly allergic to ANY kind of smoke. My eyes get watery, my nose gets stuffy, I start sneezing uncontrollably and my eyes turn red. And, if it's strong enough, it can suffocate me and kill me due to my asthma. I'm guessing they've been planning this for quite some time now since a different friend told me they were talking about it in first period. Turns out, they didn't do it because the guy that had the lighter had left. And, they were going to try again on Monday. When they were walking towards me(I was far away from them with another friend), I quickly said I wasn't going to be with them on Monday. I'm going to be with someone else. I was pissed. Jenny kept on asking if I was mad, I said "Of course." Then the bell just rang we headed to our classes. I was thinking about it while I was using the computer in my class and I knew that they had given into peer pressure. Even if it's supposed to be a one time thing, they can easily get addicted to it. They texted me in my Chemistry class asking me if I was still mad. I said yes and they told me they weren't going to do it on Monday so I don't have to go with my other friend. I told them I don't care if they're going to do it or not, I'm still not going to be with them on Monday. They told me I'm ****ed up for doing that but I don't care. I just told them to leave me alone. I haven't talked to them since. It really did bother me since they were closest friends and I didn't think they'd even try to do it at school. When I had got home from school, I felt as if I just wanted to punch something and release my anger on whatever I could. I ended up talking about it to a friend from here(won't really say who unless he wants me too. >> Or, if he says it himself.) and well, I felt way better. I still think about it when ever I stare off into space and start thinking about practically everything. Honestly, if they come up to me on Monday, I'll just practically call them ******s and possibly stop hanging out them. Depends how pissed off I get. >>; Like I said, I just wanted to post this to get off my chest even though I kind of already did earlier. You can give me advice if you want but, I've already made my decision to be with a different friend on Monday. Sorry if I wasted anybody's time. But for those that actually read this, thank you.
I agree with you not being around them on Monday. I was in a similar situation (although it was sex, not pot). I was very angry at my friend for a few days, but she was really sad because she didn't want to lose me for a friend, and she promised me she wouldn't again. I'm not sure if you should take a similar approach, but I think that showing your disapproval will be enough for now. If they really do care about your friendship they'll care about what you think of them.
You should have a talk with your friends about peer pressure. It really seems like they're doing it just to be cool or impress somebody.
I think what you did was right. I'd be concerned about my friends aswell if they were going to try to smoke. Like Misty said, if they do care about your friendship with them, they'll hopefully do the right thing not do whatever they're going to do on Monday. Yeahh....peer pressure is an option here for why they're discussing smoking. Showing that you disapprove of what they're going to do is the best thing for now. ~I hope everything turns out ok :'D
I know for a fact Jenny cared if I was mad. She kept asking me and she told me not to be mad. But, I told her I have a reason to be upset. Both Jenny and Kelly have smoked before. Kelly has smoked weed and that was by peer pressure. She was at a party with a few friends. And Jenny has smoked a cigarette before and that was with her sister. Jenny will probably try talking to me over the weekend but if not, she'll try at school Monday. I have no idea why they wanted to try it in the first place. Thank you. Yeah. Thank you.
I would say that you did well in speaking and such, and told them how things were but in the end, I think you are also being way too critical here. Your friends are your friends and when they said they changed their minds and weren't going to do it, you still are punishing them. Whether -you- are allergic to smoke or not, should not be of concern for them as they would not be smoking around you. It's kind of selfish and misplaced for you to be mad at them for that thing since it won't even happen that way. However, being upset that they'd decide to use drugs and such for their own health, and not wanting to be around that is the right reason to not hang out with them, if that bothers you so much. It seems though that they were both willing to put it aside and so having a talk with them and that you don't want to see them hurt themselves or become embroiled in a life of drugs that is less cool and exciting than their friends make it out to be, would be the option I would take. Friends make mistakes. I doubt I could lose 'respect' for my friends for such a thing since I have friends that do smoke pot and cigs etc. I would lose respect for those friends if they did something stupid such as stole, lied, cheated, treated someone like crap, drove around like a drunk idiot, etc instead. We all have our vices so I don't get hung up on them unless I can point out that the vice is the culprit for how stupid someone is being. In life, you are bound to meet all sorts of people. Anyway, my point in saying what I did is not to convince you to change your mind on drugs really, but to say that if you are too strong in your stance, and so furious with your friends, they might not be your friends anymore and this peer pressure they are listening to is only going to cause them to fall into the bad habits because that one good friend isn't around anymore to say it's not needed. They care about the opinions of others, perhaps too much. You seem to matter to them both, so maybe it will turn them around as you are strong-willed enough to not do the stuff. Of course, you have an angle they don't. You have athsma so you would never be attracted to doing something that well, harms you greater than others, and you know what it's like to lose your breath constantly, which is something that happens to people who smoke a lot, years down the road. Maybe that's something to point out to them too. I hope things get better for you and your friends wake up and don't just do things because others around them lead them to it. Good luck.
If you lose respect for someone because of smoking, I've lost a little respect in you. Smoking does not make a bad person. My older brother smokes, same with alot of his friends. They are all nice people. That shouldn't get in the way. Also you used ****** as an insult. I hate when people do that. My little brother has higher-functioning autism. He can talk to us, but he can't comprehend his own disorder. That's my rant. Ignore me if you want.
I do plan to be with them soon. Depending when I feel as if I won't be mad around them. I have no idea if they decided to go and smoke pot with my friend's boyfriend. I don't even think I want to know. And, I guess two reasons I can give as to why I was mad at that time was because, they were going to smoke pot but also because I tell them practically everything that happens in my life and trust them enough to even do that but, they don't bother telling me anything when it comes to them. They keep it between each other. I don't know but thank you. I'm not saying by smoking you're automatically a bad person. My father used to smoke but stopped when my mother had my brother. And, I do apologize for using ******. I was mad when I was typing this so I apologize.
Stop saying potheads! It's a desicion they will regret, they will find it out soon. My brother says smoking was the worst desicion he ever made in his lfe. He regrets it, they will too.
Just because your brother regretted it, doesn't mean they will. I used to be a major pothead, now i'm just the occassional smoker. Do I regret it? No. Just because someone smokes pot, doesn't mean they're just a dumb pothead. I've been smoking weed the last three years and I have some of the highest test scores in my school. I have a higher score than two of our five valedictorians. Sorry to get off-topic. Aura, I hope it all works out for you. Remember, they ARE your friends. But only if they respect your health and morals.
