Ok so I have a few problems going on right now.. 1) Last month I broke up with my boyfriend of three years. Why? well I was at a party with him,a friend from school and some college friends. I went to the bathroom with my friend and she told me he was calling another girl behind my back. I got really angry right away and starting shouting my mouth off in the bathroom saying how I was going to confront him,they tried to calm me down-another friend said that I was just drunk,yes i had been drinking but I wasnt drunk- so when I asked my boyfriend he immediatly blamed my friend and said she was lying and twisting things to get rid of him. That made me suspicious so we argued and then he admitted that he called her because she asked. Of course I got upset and asked my dad to come get me. When I got home I bbmed the girl and she said she didnt ask,he just called her all the time. again I got upset and called him and told him it was over and I wasnt being treated this way. The thing is,did I over react? But I said to my sister If i didnt know about the phone calls,what else dont I know? 2) He'd actually asked him to marry me. When I was drunk. Without a ring or anything. I said yes,but as the months went on I started to think he only asked so I'd sleep with him. It made me feel bad. He wouldnt even let me tell my family or anything. He said 'He was a ashamed' He never told me why. Part of me thinks it was because we were only 18. 3) My best friend. People think he has one of two secrets-He's either really gay or really in love with me. I just dont know anymore,We have fun and carry on,but I dont like him that way...he's like a brother. But last night he was drunk with a few of our friends and he said he was gay. Im not sure if he was kidding or not....but it hurt me a little and as bad as this sounds...I feel a little distant from him now. Like I dont like him as much. Gays dont bother me. I know a few gay people...But its got me wondering if deep down..maybe I did have feelings for him that werent platonic?
1) It's hard to tell. You seemed to have gotten angry quite quickly, I don't know if that's from maybe suspecting before that he was being unfaithful or not, or you might have been paranoid about it, maybe pssessive. But I think you'd have to ask yourself that. I think that you need to either find out more or move on from it. Whichever way, you'll be moving forward. 2) I think you need to really take a look at him and see what his intentions are, and how he has acted with you over the years. Have you slept with him? Because if not, it might be more then sex. If you have, once or twice, could still be genuine. However if you and him are consistent with it, then maybe consider that it might not be romantic based. 3) Treat him like normal. See how things go, and ask him when he is sober if he is gay or not. You two are supposed to be good friends, then he should be willing to tell you the truth.
