As some people know, this Easter/Spring break, I am suppose to go to Spain with my school... but lots of crap has been going on with this. First, we (my school) only had one other person going other then me (my best friend) and it was going to be cancelled if someone else didn't join. Then someone else did join and then dropped out of going. Now it's going to be me, my best friend and her friend (lets call her Kay). While my best friend (lets call her Jay) is my best friend, I'm aware that I'm not her best friend because she's much more social and has a lot more friends then me and when she's with Kay she has a tendency to...ignore me basically. I don't really like Kay either- we weren't really friends in our old school and now in High School we aren't really either. But I do really wanna go to Spain because it'll be freedom away from my family for the first time (I'm literally not even aloud to walk around the block by myself) and I really wanna see Spain. Everything with this trip has been a drama so far and really annoying with the trip is canceled then its not cancelled and visa versa. Then my grandma gave me another option, if I don't go to Spain we (I'm assuming me and my grandma- maybe my mom too) would fly to AZ to see my father (who I haven't seen since June of last year) and my new half brother (whom I've never met) which is really amazing but I'm just not sure which too do. I know that I'm very lucky to have both of this opportunities, but I'm not sure what to do... I really wanna see Spain and I know Jay and Kay will be pissed if I get this trip cancelled but I don't want my family to waste money (and my grandma doesn't wanna waste it either) if I'm going to have a **** time... and I really miss my dad... Please Help KHV (Thanks to everyone who read this all... Love you all <3)
I see your dilemma on the one hand you can meet family you have yet to know and on the other you get a sense of independence from your family. I guess what it comes down to is which can you live with having your friends mad at you for a little while or missing a chance to meet your brother for the first time when who knows when you will get the chance to again. I'd say the choice is pretty clear and I'd choose to see family. But I can not know where your heart lies so I wish you luck with your decision.
I think it'd be best to go and see your Dad. If you haven't seen him for so long, and you think that you wouldn't have fun on the trip to Spain, this would be a good choice. Family should always come before friends, especially friends who tend to ignore you. If they get mad at you for causing the trip to get cancelled that's no big deal. Who wants to go on a trip with just three people anyway. You'd get there and more than likely be bored. If you go to AZ to see your dad you'll more than likely end up having fun, right? It all comes down to what it is you want to do. Spain will be there later, you can see that anytime. Seeing your dad and half-brother are more important, in my opinion. Hope this helped, and good luck ^^
There are more opportunities in life to go to Spain, whereas there are more opportunities to see your family, but if this so called "Jay" ignores you around "Kay" then my suggestion is to just go to Arizona and see your dad and your half brother. So what if the other two would be mad at you for not going, it's not like they would have known you were there to begin with. And also, if you feel that this "Jay" person is ignoring you, then talk to her about it, it is not good to keep things bottled up, especially if they don't make you feel to well inside. Sure, they can be mad at you for not going, but in my eyes, seeing family is far more important than any out of country, freedom, trip out there. Also, sorry if that one particular part sounded a bit harsh, I hadn't meant for it to come out like that.
Look dear, I'm going to give it to you straight. If your so called friend ignores you for her other friend, it's not worth it to go to Spain. Friends will come and go, but family is here forever. There will be other opportunities to go to much better places than Spain. Hope this helps. <3
