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kh-vids podcast episode #88: our romantic errors and misfortunes, 2005 - present

It's possible that your school WiFi blocks ports to prevent misuse. I can't see why they would block email ports but my high school also locked down everything but port 80 for a while so go figure. You'll just have to use your email provider's web interface.

Most colleges have a tech support center you can visit; they'll know the setup of the network better than us. If it's working at home and not at school, though, it's mostly definitely an issue with the school's network.

even with you fork?

I live for the romantic deets of our members' lives. I was just curious though, I feel like it takes a lot of natural chemistry to maintain extended phone conversations & it sounds like you had that with this person. Thanks for sharing haha

You shouldn't have to be within your home network to access your email.

i drained so much of my lifeblood and put it into this site that purple eventually faded to blue

This is how I feel talking on the phone in general, like I honestly cannot imagine flirting over the phone. How did things pan out for you (if you don't mind my asking)?

The only people I talk to on the phone are like... my mom and the other managers at work.

Podcast will be up later today! Only just now finished editing and I need SLEEP

hi daxma

Should be all fixed up now!

NO SHAME, THIS IS A BUMPIN' REMIX OF A GREAT THROWBACK

I really need to get into Björk. I have both Homogenic and Vespertine downloaded, though I've listened to Homogenic far more than Vespertine. I love love love Jóga, there are plenty more that I've dug other than it but I always find myself returning to Jóga.

Regarding the feminist or humanist debate, I think @Cloud3514 has made some great points on the subject. I'm always somewhat wary of those who are uncomfortable with the feminist label, though it's not always their fault -- as it often stems from a misunderstanding or misrepresentation of feminist that person has. I've quoted this article more than once on this forum before, but this to me is a great explanation of why the term 'feminism' is still important:

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To demand that feminism rebrand itself as 'humanism' obfuscates its message and purpose; it ignores the long history it has of women fighting for the rights of women. Feminism is not limited to helping only women, as patriarchy hurts men, too, and modern feminism includes battling racism, classism, the gender binary, etc. Every feminism is a humanist; feminism is an egalitarian movement. Demanding that women be placed above men isn't feminism at all, and I urge people to not view those who insist on those radical and fringe beliefs as representative of the majority of feminists. That's the same as believing Al-Qaeda or ISIS represent all Muslims. And it's not always people's fault, as the mainstream American media misrepresents groups of people this way, in some cases I'd argue intentionally. Misrepresenting feminism as what those radical and fringe 'feminists' believe enables you to bypass and ignore having to actually deal with what problems feminism actually fights against.

The shirt argument is sort of anterior to this thread and not one I really want to dig up again, mostly because it was so long ago. I don't remember exactly what I did or didn't say in the thread, but my objections to the shirt are largely that it's inappropriate for the workplace nor where the guy wore it (if a woman had shown up dressed as one of the women featured on the shirt, I cannot imagine that would be considered appropriate) and, far more importantly, that it treated women and women's bodies as decoration for the male gaze. As I understand it, and as @libregkd covered, the guy in question did genuinely apologize for the shirt.

Back on-topic, though, tumblr definitely has a problematic call-out culture that dominates a lot of social justice circles. It's one that I do not, and to my knowledge have never, supported. It's especially unfortunate because tumblr is, at heart, a blogging platform filled primarily with teenagers. I've seen young teens called out for saying something problematic and sent strings of hateful, accusatory messages in response to what may have been a personal, private vent post. To a degree, I think it's important to let people know when they have said something offensive, because it often stems from a place of ignorance -- and the only cure to that is to politely inform. As an example, I'm white, and while I do try my best to stay in my lane, I also acknowledge that I have been raised with white privilege and may have racist tendencies. Should I post anything racist, I would absolutely want one of my followers to inform me, so that I can apologize for it and remove whatever content. That's really the ideal exchange. When hate messages and the like become involved, that is an unfortunate problem. But once again, we should not allow ourselves to think that that is mainstream tumblr or that all social justice bloggers, or more extremely, all tumblr users, exercise that behavior.

that's why they call me the avocado, baby

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No, I mean other than in-person.

How the hell did people flirt before texting? Like obviously in-person is one thing, but did people like... talk on the phone???

as an alternate strategy, keep staring at them. even when they notice. never stop staring them down. at a certain point they'll have to talk to you