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So, I'm having guy troubles. I know, joyous.

We'll call him Ben because that is easy to spell xD. Anyway, I met Ben September 2011 when he came to our school for sixth form, he was in my english literature class. We talked a lot between lessons and became quickly acquainted and I could sense that he took quite a shine to me as I did to him. We ended up sitting next to each other on the bus ride to the Royal Shakespeare company in stratford to see Merchant of Venice with school and we talked for the entire journey. When we got there we got food and just carried on talking as friends and we requested tickets next to each other. I could sense where this was heading and I just hoped my instincts were right. About 20 minutes into the show Ben tapped me on the shoulder, I looked at him and we ended up making out, I sat with his arm around me for the rest of the performance but was continuously distracted by him (which was nice but also a shame because I wanted to watch the play- it had Patrick Stewart in it). We held hands in the interval and all was good until the bus journey back. He basically told me that he had a girlfriend and I was horrified simply because I didn't know. I ended up feeling quite furious with him for daring to cheat on his girlfriend and quickly went off him. He also told me on the trip back that he "one day wanted to have a relationship with me" which has remained in my mind ever since. We remained friends and I finally forgave him when he basically told me that he was stuck with her because she said to him "leave me and I kill myself" which was quite serious. Mouth open, I asked him if he thought Pam would go through with it and he just stared at me gravely, "Yes, I don't doubt it for a second." So he was stuck and I tried all I could to help him, over time discovering her to be a controlling, manipulative woman with selfish intentions.

I stuck by Ben feeling very protective over him hoping she wouldn't shatter him into pieces. In December, he facebooked me and told me Pam had left him and had been cheating on him for ages. He didn't exactly like her but he felt very caring over her and well, he's been cheated on and that can't make anyone feel good. So we went out for coffee and talked for ages about things and it was nice, it was then that I realised I was beginning to like him again. We met up on Christmas eve and went for coffee and just walking around town and it was just lovely. A few Saturdays ago he invited me to Rugeley where we bought picnic food from the supermarket and walked for about an hour to a hill with a huge rock on it where we sat and ate our food... in the middle of January. Yes it was cold and the snow was upon us but it was gorgeous and I loved spending time with him. We talked about where we saw ourselves in the future, him an archaeologist, me a psychiatrist (I laughed at the potential Doctor Who reference)- after I said I wanted to be married with two kids he nodded and said the same. It made me feel warm inside... even if he was lying, which he might have been, to make us appear more compatible. We must have talked for a good 6 hours and I went home on a high and I couldn't stop thinking about him.

I think he likes me back but I can't be certain. After that Saturday I felt incredibly shy around him because I liked him so much... I may have been ignoring him at places. I feel now I've sent him mixed signals and scared him off but I could just be seeing things, he may not like me in that way so I'm unsure- I think he does but I have been wrong about these things before leading to very awkward moments.

I definitely want to tell him how I feel but I don't know if I should or not. There are various reasons against, including: he's recently broken up with Pam so it could be a rebound situation (although it's been 2 months), he's got a reputation as a bit of a player (heck, I know- he cheated on his girlfriend with me), we're both off to university soon (hopefully) so it'll turn into a long distance relationship which I think I could handle and he's got a date with some girl on valentines day (it's not something serious, just a date- not girlfriend material I was told). I want to tell him before I could potentially lose him again but am feeling very apprehensive.

So KHV, shall I tell him how I feel?