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Why thank you. I'll do my best to live up to par. ;)

I personally think sex before marriage is fine. Abstinence was, is, and will remain for quite some time a religious belief. I am by no means religious, though that does not mean I lack morals.

I think one of the biggest issues with abstinence is it's one of the most subtle, strongest and eternal sexisms we have in society. Yes, virginity is valued. Maybe this is just where I live, but rarely is a male dumped because he isn't a virgin. For females? I've known some friends who's relationships were ruined just because of their past decisions. Does this mean they shouldn't have had sex?

No.

It means that the guy never really loved her along and she was better off without him.

If someone really loves you afterall, they should accept you and your history no matter what. I don't understand the powerful stigma attached to virginity, especially for women... but again, that may just be where I live. Who knows.

You look around you, and sexuality is the very last obstacle women have to conquer before being seen as equals in men. One of the highest causing deaths is domestic abuse/battering. Rape is method of torture, targetted at damaging a person in every possible way. Yes, more and more males are being exposed to this, but the facts are that women still dominate this section of victims. If we can remove taboos against being a "****", being "easy" and other vulgur terms I won't use, we're one step closer to removing sexually based discrimation.

Also, I think love is an important part of sex. Not marriage; love. I think that if you love the person at the time, you honestly believe it, then go for it. "Waiting" is a flawed conception, because how many people can know right away? Oh, the movies, the books, they all say it, but come on--people are only human. If you thought you loved them when you did it, you both whole-heartedly agreed, and time changed things, then move on. Being honest to yourself is the key here. Everybody makes mistakes, but it's how we react to them that's importnant.

Have I had sex? No. I haven't found anyone worth that committment yet. I'm not particularly concerned with waiting until marriage, but I'm not jumping into the first bed I see either per sae.

These are just my opinions, and I am by no means hostile towards those of differing views. The best argument abstinence has is probably there are so many nasty STDs just waiting to bite anyone that comes close enough. Abstinence is the only 100% way of preventing that. Condoms are always an option though, and abstinence won't save you from rape.